Comments on: Nine Social Skills To Practice – Even For The Socially Unskilled Like Myself http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/ Financial talk for the rest of us Sat, 16 Feb 2013 01:14:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Prabu http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-17412 Prabu Wed, 11 Apr 2007 13:11:04 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-17412 Trent,
You know a lot of things. I wonder who taught you! Great job, man. If you do all the things you say, you could easily pass for a father!

]]> By: Nathania Johnson http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15542 Nathania Johnson Wed, 04 Apr 2007 17:09:24 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15542 Sometimes shy social skills have to do with your state of mind. I used to assume people didn’t want to talk to me unless THEY approached ME. But that’s not the case at all. It’s perfectly ok to walk up to people and introduce yourself and strike up a conversation. People will let you know if they don’t want to be bothered. And don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to talk. There are many reasons that could occur, most of which have nothing to do with you.

]]> By: Chris http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15506 Chris Wed, 04 Apr 2007 14:31:58 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15506 “If you can remember a fact or two about the person, this is almost always good fodder for a conversation opener”

Just be careful not to overuse this one. After a while it becomes obvious to the other person that you only know that one fact about him and he will feel like your perception of him is very one dimensional.

]]> By: Jesse http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15476 Jesse Wed, 04 Apr 2007 12:52:08 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15476 There’s a key point to remember on names, though: Don’t overuse someone’s name in conversation. If you call them by name once or twice, you sound like you’re friendly and care to know them. If you use their name every other sentence, you’ll come off as artificial and manipulative.

]]> By: Amy http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15421 Amy Wed, 04 Apr 2007 06:11:00 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15421 Do you run across a lot of dirty people in your neck of the woods? I kind of thought daily showering was a given already!

]]> By: Chris http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15389 Chris Wed, 04 Apr 2007 03:39:52 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15389 I would also add that you can build TREMENDOUS rapport with those who are not from or were not born in this country by asking “How are you?” or saying “Thank You” in their native tongue. I’ll admit, I’m very interested in languages and linguistics, so I probably have extra motivation to keep a list of these simple phrases in my head for numerous languages. But I can attest to having easily changed the mood/cooperativeness/friendliness/etc. of the person I’m talking to many, many times, by asking “Aap kaise hain?” or “Kak dyela?” or by saying “Muito obrigado” or “Komapsumnida”.

]]> By: Sachilefever http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15322 Sachilefever Tue, 03 Apr 2007 22:49:37 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15322 My husband Lee and I were just at a conference for online community folks, which led us to a long discussion on the plane ride home. We met a few people there who were also speakers and found they did not ask a single question when we stopped to introduce ourselves and get to know them. They could tell us about their book, but couldn’t bother with getting to know us. Within four minutes, we had subconsciously written them off as people we wouldn’t want to know better. We decided to try to change that reaction, but isn’t it natural to feel that way?

I’m also now on the lookout for the unclean in our midst!

Keep up the frequent posts – I look forward to them.

]]> By: Carisa http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15319 Carisa Tue, 03 Apr 2007 22:36:45 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15319 You are cracking ME UP with the cleanliness comments. Love the site.

]]> By: Gal Josefsberg http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15300 Gal Josefsberg Tue, 03 Apr 2007 21:24:41 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2007/04/03/nine-social-skills-to-practice-even-for-the-socially-unskilled-like-myself/#comment-15300 Heh, I can definitely tell that you’re a frequent reader of “how to make friends and influence people”. It’s such a great book. Easy to learn to since it’s essential lesson is “be nice to people.”

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