If you are muscular,tanned with some fake white teeth and some dyed blond hair, you can be as socially inept and stupid and know body cares. They will still love you and talk to you. So a fake look gets you fake friends!! Great!! Who wants them.If you have 2 close friends you are okay, cause that is about all you need in life.
I can remember a real nerdy kid at school was real popular, everybody used to creep round him saying nice things, I couldn;t work it out!! Then I found out he lived in a huge house with a swimming pool, and everybody used to hang out there playing on his Dads pool table and stuff!! And this was one akward shy kid!! Funny that aint it!!
Heres my seven ways to overcome social awkwardness.
1. Buy a speed boat.
2. Buy a Harley Davidson, bigger than a Sportster preferably.
3. Get slim and tanned if you are a girl, or muscley and tanned if you are a guy. Oh and fake blond hair works with both of these.
4.Become a nasty bully – notice how the bully has people round him creeping !!!
5. Join a rock band – even if you aint much good people will still want to know you – IN CASE you make the big time!
6.Join a gang.
7. Get a famous Dad.
8. Get a famous Mum
9. Drive a convertible BMW
10. Get on the X factor.

Soon you will be surrounded by fake freinds and hangers on !! Now when you stutter and cant find the words, it will now be ‘cute’
When you are standing in a crowd not talking to anybody it will be because you are the ’strong silent type’

Better to have 2 real friends and play World of Warcraft than be a phoney, be yerself and find the love within. Peace

I’ve met many people, attempted to strike conversations with them, using these tips such as asking questions, eye contact, empathizing, trying to get to know the person better. But in the end, the next day I’m lucky if they even make eye contact with me, and I’ll be damned if they don’t talk to someone else, and I’m left standing there wondering why they don’t say a word to me but they will talk to a complete stranger before they talk to me.

And that’s another thing – nobody ever strikes a conversation with me. EVER. When others are talking freely amongst each other in a classroom, I’m quite often the only person who nobody even talks to or even wants to make eye contact with. WHY? It’s not like I’m terribly bad looking…maybe a bit scrawny and on the pale side…but other than that, I think I’m at least approachable.

I’ve boiled down to the conclusion that it is because I am uneasy and feel unnatural around people, and that is the reason for people to want to avoid me. I’m beginning to wonder if social skills are not really so much a set of abilities and/or intricate knowledge of correct social procedures. Perhaps that is one aspect of being socially skilled, but really, in a big picture perspective, I think it is all about being able to make the other person feel good when they talk to you, or at least somewhat better than if they hadn’t talked to you.

I think people can sense when you are nervous or uncomfortable after they converse with you. If you are nervous or uncomfortable, and the others can see that, that will create a bad vibe and make others prefer to stay away from you.

It’s kind of like selling an item. When someone sells a product, he/she outlines all the positive sides of the product, and yes, looking good helps. The goal is to make the product desired so that the person will want to spend money on it to make it a part of their life.

When you want friends, that is what you pretty much have to do, except the product you are marketing is yourself, and the “money” is their trust in you. Of course, you need social skills to do this. You want to be able to communicate that you will add good things to their life, just like people buy products because they are convinced it will help them out.

If you are funny, they will want you to be with them, as most people do enjoy a good laugh. If you do and/or see a lot of interesting things, people will want to be a part of that, so they will be inclined to want to be with you. If you know a lot about something they are passionate in, they will want you to be with them, as you are more able to understand and appreciate them than someone who doesn’t know about the subject. All of these things will make a person want to trust you more.

On another note, when you are selling a product, you have to make the move of putting the product out there, or it will go unnoticed behind all the other products that ARE putting themselves out there. Same with people – if you don’t make yourself noticed, nobody’s gonna buy you.

These “tips” on this “article” only show you how to be more nice and approachable. It takes more than that to be a friend to someone. Strangers can be nice and approachable. You need to be able to add something worthwhile to their life so they are more willing to trust you. If you give off bad vibes, people will not want to be with you and therefore feel no desire to trust you. If the product you are gonna buy seems cheap and useless, are you going to fork your money (trust) over? I sure as hell wouldn’t.

You need to be able to communicate good vibes. Knowledge of social rules as well as consideration of others are part of having social skills. Good eye contact and a smile are good ways to start off, but if you can’t produce more than that, people won’t want to invest their time and trust into you. That’s why this article sucks and I’m still a pissed off nerd who has nothing to look forward to except World of Warcraft this weekend. Goodbye.

I think the author intended for you to do something that would take you out of your comfort zone. These tips are all useless unless you ACTUALLY talk to new people – do you not think?

I just want to throw in my two cents by pointing to a site dedicated entirely to battling social awkwardness that really helped me:

http://www.succeedsocially.com

Like you, the author has experience with it himself so the advice comes across like he really knows the topic.

I struggled with taking compliments for much of my life, and I have read in various places that the best way to respond is to smile and say “thank you” when someone compliments you. Or say, “How kind of you to notice.”

If you’re really feeling social, then tell a bit of the story behind whatever it is the other person is complimenting, whether it’s your killer back-hand on the tennis court (”Thanks, my older brother spent every morning one summer training me on this,”), or your newest home stereo set-up (”Thanks for noticing. I got a great deal from such-and-such over at the computer store on Lincoln Ave.”).

It is also interesting to note that my husband’s friend (who is a pyschiatrist) told him that social skills, even more than GPA’s or even current performance, matter most on the job. I see this with my brother. He works in the computer industry, and around here there were hundreds of people laid off, many of them more educated and with more years with the company than my brother. But my brother kept his job. Know why? People like him! He’s friendly and engaging. He doesn’t walk around with a smile all the time, but his voice is always “smiling” when he talks, even when he says, “Hey, good morning.”

Trent, if you ever feel inspired to write more on this topic, I would be interested in hearing your advice on taking compliments. This has always been something I’ve struggled with and have not been able to find very many resources on the subject.

Even now, i dont have any friends(nor a girlfriend) except for family. A lot has to do with self-esteem, of which i have none.

Thanks for the post. I will give some of this a try. I already ordered “how to win friends and influence people”, just waiting for it to arrive.

http://www.roadtoharvard.com/sevenwaystopromotesocialawkwardness/

Keep up the good work!

J