Comments on: Investing in Yourself: Socializing and Networking http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/ Financial talk for the rest of us Sat, 16 Feb 2013 01:14:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Josh http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-226794 Josh Sun, 06 Apr 2008 10:51:29 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-226794 I’m wondering how this can be applied by people like me that have Asperger’s, autism, or other medical problem that interferes with social interaction.

]]> By: Loy http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-210522 Loy Mon, 24 Mar 2008 17:46:45 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-210522 Thanks for these tips. I personally learned a lot from reading Dale Carnegie’s book on How to Win Friends and Influence People. One of the effective tips is by taking a personal interest in people. One way to do this is by remembering people’s names.

]]> By: ok http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189555 ok Fri, 22 Feb 2008 22:18:56 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189555 That’s not an “anti-social streak”. That’s social anxiety.

]]> By: Funny about Money http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189153 Funny about Money Fri, 22 Feb 2008 05:13:51 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189153 This series is a brilliant idea. Love this post for us Shy People. I’m always floored by people who seem to have been born knowing how to behave like this.

]]> By: Michael http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189039 Michael Fri, 22 Feb 2008 00:47:56 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-189039 I think, one important thing about networking is not just to talk to everybody you meet, but picking out the smart ones. You learn the most if you interact with people who are smarter or even much smarter than yourself. Also people with a lot of experience in a certain field can be very interesting.
Who cares about that strange guy from the accounts department or something ;)

]]> By: Marta http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188983 Marta Thu, 21 Feb 2008 22:57:05 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188983 Loving this series, too!!

I especially agree with your last section: noticing which relationships are key and then maintaining contact is also critical.

I like to use Google calendar to set reminders for people’s birthdays and major events like their kid’s birthdays, graduation, wedding anniversaries (esp. if I attended) and so on. Award and recognize people for their achievements and they’ll be forever grateful. Use with discretion, however, not everyone likes this kind of attention!

]]> By: Jesse http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188955 Jesse Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:42:03 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188955 “Send quick emails semi-regularly”

As simple as this sounds, its actually a big deal. I have several very good friends in Europe that it just isn’t feasible to talk to them on the phone much. Sometimes I just have to make myself sit down and email them…or risk losing touch.

]]> By: Graham Lutz http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188936 Graham Lutz Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:09:32 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188936 Tyler, you’re very right on!

]]> By: SomeoneOutThere http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188935 SomeoneOutThere Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:07:06 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188935 Thanks for this. I have had a hearing loss since birth, and I think this has contributed to introversion on my part. My parents tell me that I was outgoing when I was a kid – walking right up to people and asking what they are doing and stuff. But I think so many years of miscues due to my hearing loss has gradually made me introverted. I often don’t speak up or talk to someone (girls that I like at work, for example) because I am afraid I’ll mess it up by not hearing someone correcting and responding intelligently to a question or statement that wasn’t actually said by the other person. It makes me look foolish. If I don’t speak up, then it doesn’t happen. But I know I lose out on a lot because of it. So thank you for your post.

]]> By: Steve Olson http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188934 Steve Olson Thu, 21 Feb 2008 21:07:03 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188934 Trent,

This post offers much for introverts. I don’t mind doing any of the things you mention. I can do them with little anxiety. Connecting with people has never been a chore for me. Bit I’m not an extrovert. I need time alone and I need company too. When I do connect socially I prefer small groups of 2-4 people because I find the conversation much deeper. The larger the group the more shallow the conversation, in my experience.

]]> By: Frugal Dad http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188929 Frugal Dad Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:59:23 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188929 I’m really enjoying this series! It’s funny, in my last job I was very outgoing, met with a lot of different people, etc. In my current role I look (and feel) more like the classic introvert. I’ve come to dread social situations and would prefer to be alone than with a group. I’ve recognized this shift and am working to crawl out from my shell. In addition to re-reading the Carnegie classic I’m hanging on to this post for motivation.

]]> By: Ron@TheWisdomJournal http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188921 Ron@TheWisdomJournal Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:48:54 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188921 You can sum it all up by saying:
Be a friendly person and stay in touch with those you meet!

]]> By: Michael http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188920 Michael Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:46:40 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188920 The advice to get others talking about themselves is getting around, and the result is that there are fewer good conversations these days. Unless the target is completely self-absorbed, the result is often an interrogation. Several times I have seen a red-faced person babble things they probably regret saying while the “networker” asks one personal question after another. Most of the time it is not that bad, but it doesn’t feel good when one person is sucking in information and hardly giving any out.

]]> By: Tyler http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188902 Tyler Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:18:54 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188902 I agree with the follow-up. Many times the people that you most want to develop a relationship with are the same people that everyone else wants to as well.
Following up is essential – but make sure that you have something of interest to talk about with that person. Don’t just follow-up for the sake of doing so. The person may see the lack of value in your follow-up as a waste of time.
~Tyler

]]> By: Graham Lutz http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188898 Graham Lutz Thu, 21 Feb 2008 20:04:23 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/02/21/investing-in-yourself-socializing-and-networking/#comment-188898 I think following up is KEY. You can meet 100 people a month, but if you never follow up and actually develop some sort of bond, the networking has been a waste of your time.

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