Comments on: Dealing with Personal Disappointment and Tragedy http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/ Simple, applicable personal finance advice for the modern world Sat, 21 Nov 2009 22:03:21 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Suzanne http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-408809 Suzanne Tue, 04 Nov 2008 04:26:56 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-408809 Trent, I'm thinking of you now and hoping things shift for the better. I benefit from your blog in so many ways and share it with family & friends. You're a person who is wise beyond his years, whatever they may be. Take Care. Trent, I’m thinking of you now and hoping things shift for the better. I benefit from your blog in so many ways and share it with family & friends. You’re a person who is wise beyond his years, whatever they may be. Take Care.

]]> By: Cindy http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-408186 Cindy Mon, 03 Nov 2008 16:49:43 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-408186 We just lost out perfect dream house to another offer. I know it's just a house, but when you feel so good about it and are so sure you will live there, it's hard to have that ripped out from underneath you. I was really down about it for a couple of days, but I'm now realizing that it is just a house, bricks and mortar. Rooms. So while I don't have any specific advice for you other than what you've already done, I'd just say that we Simple Dollar fans hope things start looking up and maybe knowing that we are all concerned will give you the strength to make it through the tough moments until you feel more like yourself. Good luck. We just lost out perfect dream house to another offer. I know it’s just a house, but when you feel so good about it and are so sure you will live there, it’s hard to have that ripped out from underneath you. I was really down about it for a couple of days, but I’m now realizing that it is just a house, bricks and mortar. Rooms.

So while I don’t have any specific advice for you other than what you’ve already done, I’d just say that we Simple Dollar fans hope things start looking up and maybe knowing that we are all concerned will give you the strength to make it through the tough moments until you feel more like yourself. Good luck.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-408176 Lisa Mon, 03 Nov 2008 16:37:51 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-408176 "empty and sad" -- ouch. Sunlight can help, playing with children and pets (such glorious innocence!) as well. Be gentle with yourself and take extra time. It seems to me that this is one of the reasons you have 'extra' posts on hand, so that if you just can't face writing for a day (or 2) you aren't adding stress to the situation. “empty and sad” — ouch.

Sunlight can help, playing with children and pets (such glorious innocence!) as well. Be gentle with yourself and take extra time.

It seems to me that this is one of the reasons you have ‘extra’ posts on hand, so that if you just can’t face writing for a day (or 2) you aren’t adding stress to the situation.

]]> By: Amanda http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-408116 Amanda Mon, 03 Nov 2008 15:18:00 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-408116 Sending good thoughts your way. Sending good thoughts your way.

]]> By: TParkerson http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-408019 TParkerson Mon, 03 Nov 2008 12:18:39 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-408019 Trent...the highway of life has some pretty rough patches of asphalt on it. But by simply moving, you will get through this. It gladdens my heart to see so many positive words from so manyof us that have grown to love and respect you. Add my warm fuzzies to the list, please. And speaking of warm fuzzies, I have found that just sitting with the warm sunshine on my face really does help. Actually, there is a gland behind your eyes that helps to emit a "positive" hormone and lightens your mood. That's why we all feel so good after a beach day...Sunshine also increases your bodies production of vitamin D, a natural mood booster! Anyway, here is to better days...I am sending you "chicken soup and warm sunshine" thoughts! Time' Trent…the highway of life has some pretty rough patches of asphalt on it. But by simply moving, you will get through this.

It gladdens my heart to see so many positive words from so manyof us that have grown to love and respect you. Add my warm fuzzies to the list, please.

And speaking of warm fuzzies, I have found that just sitting with the warm sunshine on my face really does help. Actually, there is a gland behind your eyes that helps to emit a “positive” hormone and lightens your mood. That’s why we all feel so good after a beach day…Sunshine also increases your bodies production of vitamin D, a natural mood booster!

Anyway, here is to better days…I am sending you “chicken soup and warm sunshine” thoughts!

Time’

]]> By: moneysavingmama http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407992 moneysavingmama Mon, 03 Nov 2008 11:01:17 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407992 Trent, your pain is no less than anyone else's.Deal with it how you want to deal with it. Trent, your pain is no less than anyone else’s.Deal with it how you want to deal with it.

]]> By: Suzanne http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407606 Suzanne Sun, 02 Nov 2008 16:29:51 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407606 I follow your blog, and therefore your life too. I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. I follow your blog, and therefore your life too. I just wanted to say that I’m thinking of you.

]]> By: Victoria http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407560 Victoria Sun, 02 Nov 2008 14:31:29 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407560 Trent, I am wishing you well! You have done so much for me by way of your columns. I hope that the issue is quickly resolvable. If not, I wish you all of the resources necessary to deal with the issue. Trent,

I am wishing you well! You have done so much for me by way of your columns. I hope that the issue is quickly resolvable. If not, I wish you all of the resources necessary to deal with the issue.

]]> By: Victoria http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407558 Victoria Sun, 02 Nov 2008 14:29:51 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407558 Trent, I am wishing you well! You have done so much for me by way of your columns. I hope that the issue is quickly resolvable. Good thoughts, and best wishes! Trent,

I am wishing you well! You have done so much for me by way of your columns. I hope that the issue is quickly resolvable. Good thoughts, and best wishes!

]]> By: Lynne http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407403 Lynne Sun, 02 Nov 2008 05:49:16 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407403 I too, am sorry to hear you are facing a personal loss. It doesn't matter whether it is the loss of a family member, a book deal, a job, or something else. We all suffer losses that affect us deeply, and only time will ease that suffering. While I am in the midst of my own sorrow at losing my husband, that doesn't prevent me from caring about the feelings of those around me, or recognizing that their losses are every bit as valid as my own, regardless of what they are. I am wishing you and your family the best while coping with your situation. I too, am sorry to hear you are facing a personal loss. It doesn’t matter whether it is the loss of a family member, a book deal, a job, or something else. We all suffer losses that affect us deeply, and only time will ease that suffering. While I am in the midst of my own sorrow at losing my husband, that doesn’t prevent me from caring about the feelings of those around me, or recognizing that their losses are every bit as valid as my own, regardless of what they are. I am wishing you and your family the best while coping with your situation.

]]> By: KoryO http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-2/#comment-407350 KoryO Sun, 02 Nov 2008 02:38:11 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407350 Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time. Will be sending happy thoughts and wishes your way. Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time. Will be sending happy thoughts and wishes your way.

]]> By: Marie http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407320 Marie Sun, 02 Nov 2008 01:25:58 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407320 Trent, I hope you'll be feeling better in no time! The great support you have at home will get you on your way. Thank you for taking the time to help and think of others - even when you are going through a rough patch. Giving is the key to true inner joy. Your site is such a great help and encouragement - especially in discouraging financial times! Thanks for all that you do for those of us who are getting our financial acts together! Trent,
I hope you’ll be feeling better in no time! The great support you have at home will get you on your way. Thank you for taking the time to help and think of others – even when you are going through a rough patch. Giving is the key to true inner joy. Your site is such a great help and encouragement – especially in discouraging financial times! Thanks for all that you do for those of us who are getting our financial acts together!

]]> By: Bay http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407287 Bay Sun, 02 Nov 2008 00:12:22 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407287 Sorry to hear that things are down for you right now. Hope that they turn around real soon. Love, Bay Sorry to hear that things are down for you right now. Hope that they turn around real soon. Love, Bay

]]> By: SS http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407268 SS Sat, 01 Nov 2008 23:22:07 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407268 Dear Trent, I am a recent subscriber of your newsletter. You have some great information for everyone. As the Bible says, Trials and Tribulations build character such as suffering. I have suffered much in my life with famiy death-brother, father within two years and mom more recently. Suffering comes in many ways. My suggestion is to pray to God. Be thankful for the good things you have and tell God you are going to put it in his hands. Also, if you feel worse and depressed seek professional help. Never ignore if you feel worse. I appreciate you letting me express myself in words. It makes me feel better too. God loves you!!!!! Remember that!!!!! Always go to the father in heaven to help. Love, SS. Dear Trent, I am a recent subscriber of your newsletter. You have some great information for everyone. As the Bible says, Trials and Tribulations build character such as suffering.
I have suffered much in my life with famiy death-brother, father within two years and mom more recently. Suffering comes in many ways. My suggestion is to pray to God. Be thankful for the good things you have and tell God you are going to put it in his hands. Also, if you feel worse
and depressed seek professional help. Never ignore
if you feel worse. I appreciate you letting me
express myself in words. It makes me feel better
too. God loves you!!!!! Remember that!!!!!
Always go to the father in heaven to help.
Love,
SS.

]]> By: Gigi http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407247 Gigi Sat, 01 Nov 2008 22:41:59 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407247 Trent, Like everyone else, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through some hard times. My prayers for peace and healing are with you and your family. Know that you are loved by many who have never even met you. Trent,
Like everyone else, I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through some hard times. My prayers for peace and healing are with you and your family.
Know that you are loved by many who have never even met you.

]]> By: Andy Rowe http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407232 Andy Rowe Sat, 01 Nov 2008 22:17:37 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407232 Hey Trent - best wishes from Oxford, England. Hope things improve. Meditation can be a great help as you point out. I found 'Beginning Mindfulness' by Andrew Weiss a very helpful book about the subject - may even me worth one of your helpful reviews. Regards. Andy Hey Trent – best wishes from Oxford, England. Hope things improve. Meditation can be a great help as you point out. I found ‘Beginning Mindfulness’ by Andrew Weiss a very helpful book about the subject – may even me worth one of your helpful reviews. Regards. Andy

]]> By: Joan http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407222 Joan Sat, 01 Nov 2008 21:59:48 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407222 Trent, Debbie is so right, take all the time you need to grieve. I'm really glad to hear that you and your wife can talk about what the problem is. Sometimes, you just need to talk, talk and talk some more. You have been such an uplifting person in my life with the Simple Dollar. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Trent, Debbie is so right, take all the time you need to grieve. I’m really glad to hear that you and your wife can talk about what the problem is. Sometimes, you just need to talk, talk and talk some more. You have been such an uplifting person in my life with the Simple Dollar. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

]]> By: robyn http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407216 robyn Sat, 01 Nov 2008 21:43:27 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407216 Trent, for someone who gives every single day, it can be hard to take a bit of time for your self to heal. Just know we are all hoping you are able to grieve in your own way and take the time you need to do it. Spending your time with your children and wife is probably the best cure of all! Trent, for someone who gives every single day, it can be hard to take a bit of time for your self to heal. Just know we are all hoping you are able to grieve in your own way and take the time you need to do it. Spending your time with your children and wife is probably the best cure of all!

]]> By: Sarah http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407190 Sarah Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:49:55 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407190 Sorry to hear you're down, Trent. Sorry to hear you’re down, Trent.

]]> By: Jan http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/comment-page-1/#comment-407181 Jan Sat, 01 Nov 2008 20:13:25 +0000 http://www.thesimpledollar.com/2008/10/31/dealing-with-personal-disappointment-and-tragedy/#comment-407181 Chin up, buddy. "This too shall pass", as we hear so often about the economy these days. Sunshine comes after rain. Life will unsuck again later. We need you. Take care. Chin up, buddy. “This too shall pass”, as we hear so often about the economy these days.
Sunshine comes after rain.
Life will unsuck again later.
We need you.
Take care.

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