Comments on: Thoughts After Losing a Loved One

By: Nicole

Nicole — Fri, 01 May 2009 14:47:23 +0000

I am just catching up on blog reading and I’m sorry you are getting this comment so late.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. My very deepest sympathies.

By: Bobby

Bobby — Fri, 10 Apr 2009 00:18:06 +0000

You and your family will be in my prayers during this time.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 12:45:43 +0000

Trent, So sorry to hear about your grandmother’s death. I lost my mother two years ago and remember how sad it was for my children and our whole family. There is never a good time to lose your mother. I trust in God’s will, don’t understand it always, but trust nontheless.

By: morgan

morgan — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 11:38:15 +0000

Trent ,
I am very sorry for your loss.
I hope you have many many happy memories of your grandmother.
Morgan ( from Brasil)

P.S: meditate about the mistery of death reading Death Be Not Proud. You’ll like it
http://www.bartleby.com/105/72.html

By: Ilah

Ilah — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 22:59:32 +0000

I was sorry to hear of your loss.

It is wonderful when people bring food, etc. just one less thing to think about when your house is full of guests.

One idead I learned when my beautiful neice died–some people brought toilet paper, paper plates etc, necesssities such as eggs, milk, bread. I never would have thought about bringing things like paper products, but it is something you run out of with a house full of people and saved us a run into town for supplies.

By: bay

bay — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 20:25:12 +0000

Sorry to hear about the loss of your grandmother. God bless.

By: Karen

Karen — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 19:07:07 +0000

I can empathize completely. I got the phone call last Monday that my own paternal grandmother was failing, so I hopped in the car, grabbed my daughter, informed my husband, and headed to Marshalltown. All of my siblings spent time with Grandma before she passed early Wednesday morning. It drew us together and we made it through a tough time.

I want to thank you, because if I had not found this site and started my own emergency fund (which we did not have to use, but was nice to know was there), this last week would have been much more stressful. Thank you.

Furthermore, because of my grandmother’s love of life and everyone in it, there was a huge turnout for her visitation and funeral. Considering she was 99 years old, and over 100 people were in attendance for each, it was obvious that she was loved by many.

Thanks for your blog and all you share with us.
Karen

By: Nikki W

Nikki W — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 16:59:22 +0000

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I too lost my maternal grandmother (just as I was preparing to fly out 3 weeks later for her big birthday). It was a loss to me, but a joy for her as she went to heaven. I understood the depth of her friendships – and those of my parents – as I watched the support network you describe. So many wonderful lessons to learn. Thank you for opening your heart and transparently sharing your life with us.

By: tiphaine

tiphaine — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:52:46 +0000

Sorry for your loss.
I’m sure indeed it was her gift for your family to put people on the way to reconciliation.
I hope you find some confort in Easter celebrations… I think what we call eternal life should be really eternal, as in with no beginning, as well as no end.
We are already in eternity by choosing to show love around us, and you are most certainly doing so. :)
Prayers for you

By: Su

Su — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:33:48 +0000

Trent -
I’ve been reading you column by email for about 1 1/2 years now, and wanted to say thanks for the great information.

I’m truly sorry for the loss to yourself and your family. Thank you for giving us real life examples and sharing your personal events with us.

By: Bavaria

Bavaria — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:17:36 +0000

Thank you for the wisdom. It sounds like your grandmother was a ‘treasure’ in your life – a lovely thing for you and your family.

By: KellyD

KellyD — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 15:17:16 +0000

I’m so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

By: Missus Wookie

Missus Wookie — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:36:08 +0000

Thinking of you and your family in your time of loss. You are so right, an emergency fund or cushion means you can concentrate on what is immediately important your family, rather than the bills due next month.

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 13:10:10 +0000

My thoughts go out to you and your family in your grief. May you all find peace in time. I know what it means to have such a strong network to help you out. My grandfather passed away last September, and my husband was amazed by how many friends and family pulled together to help and be together again.

By: Georgia

Georgia — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:30:18 +0000

My prayers are with you. I can understand fully. In 2007 I lost a brother-in-law, a brother, and a husband. It was a bad year but, as you say, there was a network to help me keep going. I also live in a small town in MO and was inundated with help. In fact, a local businessman keeps an extra refrigerator at his appliance business just for times like this. We got so much food that it took 2 refrigerators and still needed more. It took one more worry off my shoulders. Friends and family are even more important in our times of loss. God be with you and your family.

By: DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad

DDFD at DivorcedDadFrugalDad — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 12:09:55 +0000

Sorry for your loss.

Thanks for sharing how you are coping . . .

By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 11:25:26 +0000

My sympathy for your loss – what a heartfelt posting. Thank you!

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 10:24:43 +0000

I am so very sorry for your and your family’s loss. In time, I am sure you will remember all of the gifts that your grandmother gave you and how she influenced your and your family’s life.

By: Quatrefoil

Quatrefoil — Wed, 08 Apr 2009 01:17:39 +0000

My sympathy in your time of grief. Take heart that those we have loved are with us always as long as we remember them.

By: !wanda

!wanda — Tue, 07 Apr 2009 21:01:33 +0000

My condolences to you, Trent. This must be a very trying time for you.

My grandmother died a few years ago. My mom was frantic for a long time afterwards- arranging memorial services in two countries and handling estate issues overseas. We have no close blood family left in that country, and it was impossible to do things by phone. My mom had enough savings to fly across the world on two week’s notice and stay there for a month to handle things. Even more fortunately, she had very good friends who were willing to drop what they were doing, drive her around, and help her with bureaucracy. She is very good at husbanding both kinds of capital- money capital and human capital- and it really paid off when she needed it most.