Comments on: 12 Ways My Wife Quietly Makes Our Life Work

By: Jessica

Jessica — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 06:25:22 +0000

It is great that you and your wife share such a mutually giving a loving relationship. It is refreshing to read about marriages that work! My husband and I loved this post!

By: Jill F.

Jill F. — Sun, 21 Jun 2009 01:35:29 +0000

This is simply a great post! I am going to e-mail it to my 21 year old son who is looking for a wife. He is a go-getter and I think he is going to go far in life but I keep exhorting him to find a “good” woman who is not a shop-aholic!

Thanks!

Jill

By: Heather F

Heather F — Sat, 20 Jun 2009 06:20:14 +0000

Thank you for sharing such a lovely, loving tribute to your wife. I’m flabbergasted at the not-so-nice comments in response, but I guess there will always be people who look for the negative.

By: katie

katie — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 17:52:58 +0000

It sounds like you have a secretary, not a wife.

By: tammy

tammy — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 22:01:51 +0000

What a lovely lovely testament to your wife. It is indeed refreshing to realize there are such women in the world. You are RICH in many ways to have such a wonderful and wise mate

By: Sarah

Sarah — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 16:00:13 +0000

You forgot to praise her low self esteem which seems why this phenomenal woman would stay with a man who thinks this is a compliment.

It’s sad, behind every “great” man there’s a stifled woman eating her dreams.

By: kai

kai — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 15:27:50 +0000

@Daniel (comment #12)
This was a post about ‘How my wife helps our life go easy and supports me’ not ‘How my wife follows her dreams’. Why would you assume that this list is an exhaustive recounting of their relationship? Doubtless it could be turned around, and Trent’s wife could write a ‘How my husband helps our life go well and supports me’ as well, but that is not what this is.

As for listening when I have something important to say, why do you automatically assume that this means grand orders and pronouncements on the order of a biblical patriach? I would think it to include things being considered, things an opinion is sought on, any standard relationship discussions, and so on. Isn’t ‘listening when I have something I need to say’ a very basis to all friendships? The fact that it goes one way does not mean that it does not also go the other way.

By: Jasileet

Jasileet — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 14:47:13 +0000

That’s really nice.

Now what are YOU doing in the background for her to make HER DREAMS come true?

By: Sunshine

Sunshine — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 14:02:51 +0000

@ Tom – Great response to the naysayers. Much better (and certainly less incendiary) than anything I could have come up with.

By: SA

SA — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:03:00 +0000

A beautiful post- when you are mindful and grateful for all that you have, you take care of it. It makes me feel great as I too am a stay at home and was wondering how I contribute to my husband’s success. I also have picked up on things we can work on together. I am one of those lucky ones. My husband is a very giving man and is there in ways your wife is…but we do not acknowledge his hard work and commitment. Acknowledgement and appreciation is quite important in any relationship. A very feel good post Trent–thank you!

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sun, 14 Jun 2009 12:01:48 +0000

I think that the beauty of this piece is what superficially comes across as one-sidedness – I’m sure that your wife read this and thought “I do all THAT???”, and that if she were to write a complementing piece about you it would look as though you do most of the work.

Often, when my husband compliments me or thanks me for something I’ve done, it’s been for things that have taken such little effort on my part and made such a big difference to him. That’s what is so wonderful about being in a healthy relationship of this type, each can offer the other things that they would not be able to do as easily (if at all) themselves.

By: Torsten

Torsten — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 20:14:11 +0000

@Sarah,

deep regards for being such a pleasant mate for your man. There’s not a whole lot of people who manage to teamplay that well. The fact alone that Trent came to come aware of that and it urged him to express his appreciation shows that what you do really something that earns appreciation. My deep regards again for that!

By: Sue

Sue — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 16:38:31 +0000

I have no doubt that Trent’s wife is a very strong and amazing woman. That much is perfectly clear. To Trent’s defense, it takes guts to write about yourself and especially your loved one–and so I meant my counter point partially in jest. But as a reader of this blog and a wife myself, I am compelled to say what I suspect many women are thinking: though she may be “quiet,” there is nothing “little” or “simple” about his wife’s contributions.

By: Erin

Erin — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:56:04 +0000

It sounds like you are both very lucky to have great spouses. It’s so nice that you acknowledged your wife in this way.

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 01:37:56 +0000

Trent, thanks for expressing so much appreciation for the wonderful wife you have got. We don’t tell people how much we appreciate them often enough or ever. So, this is great.

@Sue (comment#30), I don’t believe Trent is saying his wife is a saint, or she is just a pushover, or weak, etc. Instead, I am seeing several things. First, it takes an amazing amount of strength and wonderful temperament, to pick up or cover for other people’s weaknesses without making a fuss about it. It is strength, not weakness. It takes great character, to be the unsung hero… Trent gets all the praise, the wife generally doesn’t, but she is just as great a contributor. I would not characterize her as weak. I happen to have a great girlfriend, and I know we will both be successful at some point, but I owe (or will owe) my success to her presence.

Second point, Trent is admitting that he is not perfect, that he needs a lot of support to accomplish whatever he does accomplish; that he would not have been anywhere close to where he is without his wife. I see humility in that.

Sorry, for the long comment, but I thought Trent did a wonderful job thanking his wife, and it should not be construed as great wives are that way because they are weak; they are strong. I think it goes both way,… great husbands can do all those things that Trent listed – I think he does them too ;-)

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 22:43:03 +0000

I, and I’d be willing to bet Sarah too, thank you for showing your appreciation here on TSD. I’d be willing to bet you do a pretty good job at showing her appreciation in real life as well. What a beautiful and blessed marriage you have.

LOL to Carrie on comment #2. How true!

By: Dan

Dan — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:51:41 +0000

hey..uh…Trent…

sounds like you did something bad….did this tribute make up for it with her? hehehe

By: Dana Booth

Dana Booth — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:28:27 +0000

Beautiful.

By: Bob

Bob — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:42:49 +0000

Dude you are so whipped.

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Fri, 12 Jun 2009 20:16:50 +0000

This is a lovely post. I was drawn to the photo and clicked on it to get a larger picture which took me to the flickr site. I think someone has left an inappropriate comment on the photo.