December 2010

Review: Financially Stupid People Are Everywhere 5comments

Every Sunday, The Simple Dollar reviews a personal finance book or other book of interest.

fspaeThe title of this book convinced me to pick it up at the library recently, but it was the introduction that caused me to actually take it home and give it a full read.

The introduction, entitled “Life as a Sucker,” makes the case that society is stacked against individual financial success unless you already have a lot of capital. Almost every element of modern society and government works against you without a large bankroll in your hand with which to generate more money.

In some ways, I agree with him. The path to personal finance success is not an easy one. I receive far more notes from people in financially disastrous situations than I can ever possibly address in my reader mailbags. There are, of course, reasons for that phenomenon, many of which the author, Jason Kelly, addresses in this book.

1: The First Rule of Finance
Live within your means by spending no more than 80% of your take-home pay. That’s the first rule of personal finance and I absolutely agree with it. If you can commit to doing that on average, you’re going to find yourself building up a lot of money in your savings over time, money that will keep financial disasters (like a job loss) at bay and make moves like buying your own home or buying a replacment car much, much easier. A big key, though, is to bank on that money, meaning that if you take money out of your savings, make extra payments beyond that 20% to restore what you took out.

2: Credit, Cars, and Castles
Kelly identifies these three elements as the most devastating opponents of personal finance success. Your credit cards (and the availability of easy consumer credit, your automobiles, and your home – together, they eat up a lot of your monthly resources if you’re paying off all of these loans. If you’re taking out a big debt for a home or an automobile that goes beyond what you minimally need, you’re essentially locking down your finances each month for the sake of having something beyond what you actually need. You’re chaining yourself to your job and walking a tightrope because you wanted more stuff.

3: Toxic FSP in the Alphabet Industry
The housing bubble only happened because people forgot the first rule of personal finance and allowed themselves to live beyond their means. When lots of people start doing this, you’ll eventually see a financial bubble of some sort, and when the people with a lot of money decide that the bubble is going to burst, they move their money and lo and behold, the bubble bursts. Prices revert to the mean and people who bought in during the bubble are left holding the bag.

4: The Society You’re Up Against
Society in general encourages overspending. It lauds having the latest consumer goods, encourages people to buy the latest and greatest things, and idolizes people who have great material wealth while encouraging others to emulate them. The end result of this, of course, is widespread financial hardship as people use their limited means to chase an affluent lifestyle that they think they deserve. The only people that win in this equation are the people who own the companies manufacturing all the stuff.

5: Government of the Corporations, by the Corporations, for the Corporations
The laws of the United States protect corporations by giving them most of the rights of people but few of the restrictions of people. For example, if a company is neglectful or abusive of someone, they are only penalized a small cash amount – you can’t send a corporation to prison. Thus, corporations push the boundaries of what would be legal or ethical behavior for an individual person because there is minimal penalty for them to act in that way.

6: How Money Is Power
Money is power because it both influences the laws of the land and also influences the methods people have of getting information. The more money you have, the better access to information that you have and the better decisions you’re able to make. In short, if you don’t have money in the bank, the deck of society is stacked against you.

7: Financial Freedom
This brings us back full circle to the idea that freedom is bought by having control over your finances. Kelly makes the point that of the money we earn, roughly a third goes to government, another third goes towards maintaining what we need, and the other third goes towards maintaining what we want. The problem, of course, is that people are clever at extracting money from that third that defines what we want, either by convincing us that it’s a need or justifying the want. The path to financial freedom is understanding that “want” section: knowing what is and isn’t a need and having control over the things you want.

8: Guarantee Your Own Well-Being
The best thing you can possibly do for your future is simply to gain control over your wants and put some of that want money to good use. Money in the bank is the best guarantee we have for present and future well-being that isn’t reliant on banks or government or any other entity to hold us up. If you want to succeed no matter what the future holds, you have to be self-reliant.

9: On the Front Lines of Freedom
Kelly closes the book by offering a few examples of real lives: people who are fighting this battle for themselves, getting control over their wants and their finances for a long-term healthy future.

Is Financially Stupid People Are Everywhere Worth Reading?
I really enjoyed this book simply because it stands out distinctly from the pack of personal finance books out there. It says some distinct, interesting, and thought provoking things about the causes of individual financial malaise and offers some unique angles about how to escape that malaise.

Financially Stupid People Are Everywhere has more of a political tinge to it than most of the books I review – it’s an integral part of the book, one you’ll figure out within fifteen seconds of reading the introduction. Because of that nature and because Kelly keeps that focus throughout, Financially Stupid People Are Everywhere becomes a pretty compelling and thoughtful read.

I don’t purely agree with everything Kelly says in the book, but I do think there are a lot of worthwhile ideas in here to consider, and that makes Financially Stupid People Are Everywhere a worthwhile read.

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Out With The Old, In With The New: Get in Touch 6comments

Throughout the month of December, The Simple Dollar is posting a daily series focusing on specific activities you can do right now to set the stage for a great 2011. Out with the old, in with the new.

19. Get in touch with someone you’ve lost contact with.

I’m willing to bet if you sat down for a few minutes, you could make a list of people who you were close to at some point in your life that have drifted away for whatever reason.

You went to high school together but moved to different parts of the country.

You went to college together but wound up on very different career paths.

You were in a civic organization or a club together for years, but one of you left for one reason or another.

There are countless reasons why social bonds slip away.

I’ll mention one of my own, because it relates to a woman I’ve attempted to locate several times since college with no success. Her name was Nicole and we became very, very close friends for a few years in college. After going through some personal trauma, she abruptly left the country on a missionary trip and, after that, I scarcely saw her again. We invited her to our wedding and, without an address, we used that of her parents. She sent back a polite note declining our invitation and, since then, I’ve been completely unable to reach her in any way.

I can think of several others as well.

Yet, at the same time, I can think of relationships I have re-established over the years. I’ve picked up the thread with several old friends and professional acquaintances over the years by doing nothing more than reaching out, and it’s been one of the best things I’ve done, both personally and professionally.

Here are some tips for doing it yourself.

Just “friending” someone on Facebook doesn’t cut the mustard. Facebook is useful for keeping tabs on existing friends, but you don’t “click” with someone just by clicking the “Add as friend” button. You can use Facebook to do it, but just friending and lurking isn’t really much of a connection at all.

The best way to go is to compose a twofold message. What do I mean by that? Simply put, you compose a message to them that contains both a brief update on what you’ve been doing along with specific questions about how they’re doing.

Put yourself in their shoes. Someone who hasn’t been a part of their life for a long while suddenly pops out of the blue with an email talking about themselves. How exactly do you follow up on that? I wouldn’t know how, that’s for sure.

Thus, you make it easy on the recipient. Ask them some questions that makes it easy to talk about what they’ve been up to. Put the ball in their court.

If you’re re-establishing contact just to tell someone off again, don’t bother. It doesn’t help anyone if you’re still grinding your axe over something that happened years ago and you’re just waiting to swing that axe and feel righteous about how you were mistreated a decade or so ago. Don’t waste your time.

Look for ways to help the person out if you’re reconnecting. There are lots of ways you can help people. If they’re looking for work and you know someone in their field, ask them for their resume and pass it on to the person you know.

Keep the communication going. Once you’ve found out what’s going on with them, touch base every month or so. Ask them what’s new and let them know what’s new with you.

Don’t be afraid to ask for little things. One of the best ways to cement a connection is to create a give-and-take of small exchanges. For example, if you’re going to be traveling to an area they know well, ask the person for restaurant recommendations. Offer to meet them for lunch if you’re going to be in their area. Little steps like this take only a moment of your time, but help establish a bond that will be valuable for years to come.

Getting back in touch with old friends and coworkers is almost always something that I’m extremely glad I’ve done, and more than once, it’s paid incredible dividends in my life. It only takes a few minutes to open that door.

Out With The Old, In With The New: Develop a Robust Filing System 5comments

Throughout the month of December, The Simple Dollar is posting a daily series focusing on specific activities you can do right now to set the stage for a great 2011. Out with the old, in with the new.

18. Develop a robust filing system.

A few years ago, I had a nightmarish time filing my taxes. I still remember it – 2007 was “the year of the dreaded tax return.”

The problem wasn’t filling out the forms or anything like that. The problem was simply finding all of the papers I needed to get the taxes finished. Some papers were in the “catch all” on the entryway table. Some were stowed away in various drawers. Still others were in a box of “important papers.”

It was a mess. I spent many hours going through piles of papers. Finally, after the whole process was over, I realized how worthwhile it would have been to spend thirty minutes spread throughout the year getting and keeping all of this stuff in order.

I spent some time reading about home filing systems, purchased a filing cabinet and some folders, and never looked back.

It seemed, at the time, as though the process of setting it up would take forever and never really repay the time investment, but after a few years of having it, I have to say that time and time again, a good paper filing system has saved me a substantial amount of time on the whole.

Starting from Scratch
Many people who start a filing system in their home are starting from nothing more than a big pile of disorganized “important” papers.

I wrote a detailed guide on filing from scratch a few years ago, but I’ll summarize it for you below.

First and foremost, you need a good place to store your files – a filing cabinet. I’d look for four things when shopping:

A good suspension system Do the drawers slide in and out easily?
Counterbalancing If you pull out a full drawer, does it cause the cabinet to tip?
Thick and rust-resistant metal, possibly lockable Does the metal in the cabinet seem flimsy? Is it stainless steel?
Look for the Underwriters’ Laboratory seal This is usually a great indication of a quality filing cabinet.

What exactly do you file? I think this depends heavily on the person, but here are the documents that I include:

Personal papers
Tax returns
Deeds, titles, and surveys
Insurance policies
Household inventory
Instruction manuals and warranties
Hard drive backups
Paycheck stubs
Employee benefit statements and plans
Retirement statements and plans
Credit card statements
Debt documentation
Investment information
Charitable donation receipts
A will
Trust documentation
A durable power of attorney
A living will
A master document explaining what all of this stuff is

Some of these documents also exist in a second copy in a safe deposit box at a local bank, in case of a devastating home fire.

Trust me: it’s well worth your time to get a robust filing system in place. You’ll find yourself turning to it – and valuing it – time and time again over the coming years.

The Simple Dollar Time Machine: December 18, 2010 0comments

Many newer readers of The Simple Dollar haven’t been exposed to the hundreds of great articles in the archives of the site, so this is a weekly series that highlights the five best posts from one year ago this week, two years ago this week, and three years ago this week. I call it … the Time Machine.

One Year Ago (December 12 – December 18, 2009)
The Perfect Is the Enemy of the Good If you’re trying to be “perfect” when adopting a new habit, you’ll soon find that you can never really be “perfect.” Instead, shoot for being “good.”

Investing without Goals Is Like Golfing without a Putter… Goals help you figure out what the right kind of investment is. Without goals, it’s like shooting in the dark.

How I Wrap Gifts, Christmas and Otherwise I didn’t do this this year because we picked up a lot of wrapping paper at a steep discount late last December.

Two Years Ago (December 12 – December 18, 2008)
Planning Ahead for Next Year’s Garden Our garden is a major part of our food planning for the year. Garden planning plays a big role in that.

Are You Insuring the Irreplaceable? Look around your house and ask yourself what items would actually be replaced if your home burnt down. Now, are you insuring those things (at an extra cost to you)?

The Two-Career Assumption Do you and your spouse both have to have a career? For different families, different arrangements work better.

Three Years Ago (December 12 – December 18, 2007)
A Talk With My Niece My niece is now a wonderful eighteen year old woman, a college student who seems to have a better grasp of her life than almost any younger person I know.

The Real Value of Stay At Home Parenting Not everything in life is measured purely with dollars and cents.

Maximizing That Hourly Rate: Figuring Out How to Best Utilize My Working Time The more efficiently you work, the more you earn per hour over the long run.

Four Years Ago (December 12 – December 18, 2006)
Shakespeare Has Insights On Everything – Why Not Money? Shakespeare’s plays and sonnets have something of value for every element of life.

The Talk: Tips For Difficult Financial Discussions I find that when I’m about to have a difficult financial discussion, the time I spend thinking about it and planning ahead is very well served.

What Exactly Is A Certified Financial Planner, And Why Should I Care? It’s worth knowing about because it helps you to determine on at least a basic level how competent the person across the table from you really is.

If you’d like to browse through more of the archives, visit the chronology, where all posts are listed in chronological order.

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Out With The Old, In With The New: Clean Out Your Pantry and Restock It 32comments

Throughout the month of December, The Simple Dollar is posting a daily series focusing on specific activities you can do right now to set the stage for a great 2011. Out with the old, in with the new.

17. Clean out your pantry and restock it.

One of the biggest money savers I’ve ever found is simply cooking at home. There was a time in my early adult life where I ate out for almost every meal. I’d eat out for breakfast, picking up a bagel and some coffee. I’d eat out for lunch with coworkers. I’d eat out for dinner with my wife or, sometimes, with friends. I rarely ate at home.

Over time, though, I slowly started moving towards making my own meals. At first, it wasn’t because of a financial benefit – it was simply due to a growing interest in food preparation, brought on by reading food magazines and the like.

It took some time to get skilled enough that I felt ready to prepare meals off the cuff in my kitchen. Early on, I burned everything and didn’t understand the need for slower cooking, but as I improved, I found myself making all kinds of things, from coq au vin to from-scratch lasagna (including the noodles).

What I discovered along the way is that the more conducive your cupboard contents are to cooking things from scratch at home, the easier it becomes and the more likely you are to do it. If all you have in the cupboard is random prepackaged foods that, frankly, don’t taste all that good or only some of the stuff you need to make things at home, then you’ll find that it’s much harder to convince yourself to just go home and throw something together for dinner.

So, how do you get from typical cupboards to this?

The first step is to clean out your cupboards and take stock of what you have. Pull everything out. Cover your floors and tables with boxes and bags and containers. Group them in whatever ways make sense to you.

As you go, throw out the outdated stuff. Trust me, you have stuff that’s old in your cupboards. Spices that have sat in there for more than a year. Canned and boxed foods past their expiration date. Flour that seems to have some sort of infestation. Get rid of all of it now.

Once you have all of this stuff out there, commit to eating some of the boxed foods and give away the rest. Yep, take it down to the food pantry and give it away if you have an abundance of it. Pass it on to someone who can actually use it before the expiration date.

For most people, this will eliminate a lot of the contents of their cupboards – a shocking amount, even. What you’re left with, though, are usable staples and just a small handful of prepackaged foods.

Now you can stock your pantry and cupboards with real ingredients, the types of things that make it possible for you to toss together meals of a wide variety quite easily. Here’s a great suggested pantry list from The Reluctant Gourmet:

* Anchovies: a must for many pasta sauces, flat filets in a can or anchovy paste.
* Artichokes: canned hearts packed in water.
* Beans: an assortment of canned (easier) or dry (more work but tastier). Bread crumbs
* Capers: great in salads and pasta dishes.
* Chutney: great for crackers and sauces.
* Clam juice: a good substitute for fish stock.
* Corn meal: great for dredging foods and a must for polenta.
* Coconut: either shredded in a can or coconut milk or better yet, both.Cornstarch: for thickening sauces
* Crackers: assorted types.
* Dried fruits: apples, apricots, currants, figs, and raisins.
* Dried herbs: basil, bay leaves, chili powder, cinnamon, dill, nutmeg, oregano, paprika, crushed red pepper, rosemary, sage, tarragon, thyme.
* Extracts: vanilla is the most important, but try orange and almond.
* Flour: unbleached all-purpose
* Jams, Jellies, Preserves, and Honey
* Ketchup: always have an extra bottle on hand.
* Mushrooms: an assortment of dried including shiitake, morels, and porcini.
* Mustard: Dried and Dijon in a jar
* Oils: Olive, pure for everyday cooking and virgin for drizzling, canola, and sesame.
* Olives: canned, pitted and non-pitted, nicoise and calamata and olive paste
* Pasta: an assortment of shapes and sizes; dried
* Peanut butter: I like the chunky style.
* Peas: canned petite style. Fresh is better, but these are good to have on hand
* Pepper: whole peppercorns, ground black and white pepper.
* Pesto, Tapenade, Salsa
* Rice: Arborio (for risotto), brown, white, wild (not really a rice but a long grain marsh grass).
* Salt: regular and sea salt.
* Salad Dressings: my favorite is Good Seasons
* Sauces: Soy or Tamari, Tabasco, Teriyaki, and Worcestershire
* Sugar: white and brown, granulated and confectioners
* Tomatoes: canned – whole plum, paste, and puree; sun-driedTuna: canned, packed in water.
* Vinegar: balsamic, white wine, red wine, rice wine.Wines: Marsala, Madeira, and Sherry

If you have all of this in your pantry, you’re in great shape for some wonderful cooking in your future. This list provides everything you need to make anything from simple spaghetti to very complex dishes.

Even better, you’ll quickly find that, if you have any initiative to cook at all, having an organized pantry entices you to prepare more food at home. Preparing more food at home means that your food bill each month goes down. That means you find yourself more in control of your financial life than ever.

How Did My 2010 Resolutions Go? 23comments

As 2010 draws to a close, it’s time to take a look at my resolutions for the year and see how they’ve gone.

1. Lose 40 pounds

Result: Partial success

What do I mean by partial success? I mean that I did lose weight during 2010 and made it halfway to my goal by losing twenty pounds during the year. Best of all, the year ended on a very positive note, with most of the weight loss occurring in the last two months of the year.

I made great progress on this goal early in the year, then it rebounded during the period where I was editing my book and facing other stresses in my life. As summer ended, I was nearly back to where I started, but during the fall, I took control of things again in a positive fashion.

My biggest challenge is getting exercise. I can cut back on my food intake without much problem, but exercise is the continual challenge because my work is largely sedentary, as are my main hobbies (reading and gaming). For me, when I cut back on food, I have to be careful to not cut back too much or I get mentally and physically tired. Diet usually results in about 3/4 lb. loss per week if I hit that fine line of meeting my nutritional needs but not consuming excess calories.

The big difference for me is exercise – when I can get it. This, of course, points straight at a potential 2011 resolution, doesn’t it?

2. Pay cash for a replacement for my truck.

Result: Complete success

If you were paying attention back in late March, our family bought a 2004 Honda Pilot using cash off of Craigslist. We have been extremely happy with the vehicle, as it fits our family of five very well for road trips (meaning we can travel to visit our parents with plenty of room for the needed luggage, plus the safety of a four wheel drive in the winter months).

The only maintenance and repair cost I’ve put into the vehicle since acquiring it is the 100,000 and 105,000 mile maintenances, which I did as one big package at about the 103,000 mile mark. That was a bit expensive, but the vehicle has kept running like a champ.

3. Learn to play the piano.

Result: Success

I wouldn’t say complete success here because I’ve learned that it’s a long, long process to get good at the piano. I can play simple arrangements now and work through new songs by simply sight reading. I am happy with my progress throughout the year, especially considering that I’ve never played an instrument or looked at sheet music before in my life.

I’ve been lucky to have a great piano instructor, Diane Helmer, who really needs to have a website to promote her work. She didn’t just sit down and make me learn things the way she thought I “ought” to learn them, but instead figured out what my goals were and is helping me to achieve them. Diane, get a website and you’ll get a link from The Simple Dollar!

I fully intend to keep up my piano playing for years to come, and my two oldest children are beginning to express interest as well (which was an ulterior motive of this).

4. Reduce my entertainment and hobby spending by 50%.

Result: Middling success

My calculation so far is that my entertainment and hobby spending in 2010 is down about 35% from 2009, which is close to my goal but didn’t quite reach it.

Here’s why I still see some success, though: I took to doing a lot of trading via the internet of DVDs, books, board games, and other items this year. If you do not include the postage for these trades, I’m actually very close to my 50% reduction that I planned for for this year.

My hobby and entertainment spending did go down drastically. The biggest drop was in DVD purchases, which almost vanished. Gaming spending had about a 10% drop overall. Book spending went down about 40%. The only area that went up was a subscription to Netflix.

I’m happy with the changes, and I suspect 2011 will have lower spending than 2010 because right now I actually have a backlog of games to play, books to read, and films to watch.

Overall

I’m pretty pleased with my 2010 resolution performance. It’s not perfect, but I set some very stiff goals for myself during the year and I achieved (or mostly achieved) all of them.

Going through this process has helped me figure out some goals for 2011, which I’m going to share with you in the coming weeks. I tentatively have three of them in place and you should be able to guess one of them if you’ve read this article.

Out With The Old, In With The New: Put Up Some Passive Barriers 19comments

Throughout the month of December, The Simple Dollar is posting a daily series focusing on specific activities you can do right now to set the stage for a great 2011. Out with the old, in with the new.

16. Put up some passive barriers.

About a year and a half ago, Ramit Sethi wrote a great guest post at Get Rich Slowly entitled The Psychology of Passive Barriers: Why Your Friends Don’t Save Money, Eat Healthier, or Clean Their Garages. It put a term – “passive barrier” – on something I’d been using in my life for quite a long time.

A passive barrier is simply something in your life that makes the normal activity more difficult. I’ll give you a list of ten of them – and then we’ll look at each one in a bit of detail.

1. Not having the television remote on the table next to the television.
2. Not having internet access from your computer.
3. Not having alcohol in the cupboard.
4. Not having your credit cards in your wallet.
5. Not having your cell phone in your pocket.
6. Not having the temperature in your house as high as you might normally have it.
7. Not having your retirement plan automatically sign you up.
8. Not having your savings plans handled by automatic transfer.
9. Not having convenient meals ready to go in your freezer.
10. Not having a codependent friend on speed dial.

Let’s see how each of these can help your life.

1. Not having the television remote on the table next to the television.
If you find yourself constantly burning your evenings channel surfing, one great way to make that a little more difficult is to simply take the remote to bed with you and plop it on your bedside table. Then, the next evening, when you find yourself settling in for some television… no remote, and it’s on the other side of the house. When you compare the thought of going all the way over there to get your remote versus the option of doing something else that needs to be done, suddenly the non-television task seems more worthwhile.

2. Not having internet access from your computer.
If you find yourself burning too much time surfing the web, just pull the cable out of the back of your computer. Then, the next time you sit down to surf, you’ll have to ask yourself if it’s really worthwhile. Should you actually get down there and plug it in … or should you find something else to do that’s more productive?

3. Not having alcohol in the cupboard.
If you find yourself having a drink or four in the evenings (and the various bad things that happen as a consequence of that choice), simply get the alcohol out of the cupboard. Give it away or finish it off and don’t replace the bottle. The next time you go to take a drink, you’ve suddenly got a big passive barrier for yourself.

4. Not having your credit cards in your wallet.
If you often charge up your credit cards on impulse buys, just take those cards out of your pocket and leave them at home. Put them in your dresser. Then, when you find yourself at the store and tempted to spend money that you shouldn’t, you’ll find yourself without your credit cards, making it much easier to just walk away from the impulse. Similarly, consider deleting your credit cards from any online services you use.

5. Not having your cell phone in your pocket.
Do you find yourself often getting distracted by your phone? Do you often turn away from people talking to you to talk on the phone or text someone (often annoying them, even if they’re too polite to say so)? The best panacea for this is to simply not carry your phone with you everywhere. Leave it in your vehicle or at home and focus instead on the people with you and the tasks at hand.

6. Not having the temperature in your house as high as you might normally have it.
During the winter, it’s often tempting to crank the heat. A better solution is to leave the temperature a bit lower than you normally would, particularly if you’re in another part of the house from the thermostat. Is it really worth it to walk all the way across the house to just adjust the temperature a few degrees? If it’s not, then this passive barrier is saving you money.

7. Not having your retirement plan automatically sign you up.
Many jobs have the ability to automatically sign up for retirement plans when you start, even if you aren’t directly making investment choices. Do it and worry about the investment choices later on. Get on the automatic investment train as early as possible so you don’t have to think about it or remind yourself to do it later. Once an automatic investment starts, it’s much easier to leave it going than to change it.

8. Not having your savings plans handled by automatic transfer.
This follows from the previous idea. If you’re wanting to save for a particular goal, you’ll find it much easier to do it if you automatically save for these goals by having automatic transfers in place that move small amounts each week from your checking account to your savings account. This way, you don’t have the passive barrier of actually having to initiate the transfer yourself.

9. Not having convenient meals ready to go in your freezer.
It’s easy to talk yourself into eating out (which is expensive) if you have nothing delicious and easy to prepare at home. You can overcome this by creating a new passive barrier: a freezer full of prepared meals. Spend a weekend banking several meals, then you’ll feel an obligation to eat them instead of going out, saving you a lot of money along the way.

10. Not having a codependent friend on speed dial.
It can be difficult to make changes to your social network. At times, it just seems easier to maintain a relationship that is dragging you down than to go through the pain of breaking it off. One easy way to move in a healthier direction for yourself is to just delete that person from your speed dial. This doesn’t make it impossible to contact them, it just raises the difficulty level.

Find some avenues in your life that could use some positive change and apply some passive barriers there. You might just find that your life is made easier by making some of the negative parts of your life more difficult.

Reader Mailbag: Qatar World Cup 39comments

What’s inside? Here are the questions answered in today’s reader mailbag, boiled down to five word summaries. Click on the number to jump straight down to the question.
1. Saving for education
2. Consolidating private student loans
3. Gift exchange ideas
4. Buying a minivan
5. Credit report questions
6. Splitting mortgage payments
7. Walking away
8. Finding a credit union
9. Leaving an underwater condo
10. Tax breaks for window coverings?

I was extremely disappointed that the 2022 World Cup was given to Qatar instead of the United States.

For many years in college and afterwards, I worked with a group of people from all over the world – some from Europe, some from Africa, some from Asia. The one thing that they all had in common was a passion for soccer, and that passion was infectious. Before long, I found myself watching the World Cup and paying attention to several different international leagues.

During the World Cup this past year, my son got into watching it. He has been playing soccer recently and enjoyed watching the games and rooting for the United States.

I was deeply hoping that the 2022 World Cup would come to the United States so that I could attend some of the games with him and the rest of our family.

Alas. Perhaps it will come another year.

Q1: Saving for education
Currently I am 26, my husband is 27. We both work but he is in the construction industry so is laid off usually every winter. He does a paper route and collects unemployment, so he still brings in about $35,000 a year, often more. I make $30,000 a year, plus I have a weekend job (tipped) where I bring in maybe $500 a month. I have ten percent going in a Roth, by husband has 6 percent going into a Simple IRA. His retirement balance is about $6,000 while mine is $12,000. Because I am somewhat unimpressed with our retirement account provider through my work, I have a seperate Roth with Vanguard that is holding steady at $7,000. We have $130,000 yet to pay on our mortgage. We have no children but would like to start trying in a year or two. My question is this: I have $12,000 in a savings account (ING) that I’m saving for tuition. I am in a Master’s program for Public Relations – it is a two year program that will cost me about $50,000 when all is said and done. I’ve already paid the first semester ($7,000). I’ve received one $3,000 scholarship but my work is not contributing at all. I believe my job prospects will improve vastly when I have my masters, however I have never taken out a student loan and don’t want to. It may be a possibility to borrow money from my mom to pay tuition. Should I knock down our retirement contributions so I can pay for tuition as it comes, or just keep saving and hope we can scrimp enough to pay tuition each semester? I hate to stop contribution to retirement at the pace I’m at – I am so proud of our retirement savings. I am fine paying our minimum mortgage as we started at $150,000 just five years ago and have paid an extra thousand or more each year up until now.

- Jill

It seems as though you have a clear goal and your only real concern is whether or not you should redirect your retirement savings into additional savings for this goal.

The first thing I would suggest is to figure out whether you’re on par with regards to your retirement savings at this point. I would use a retirement planner and make sure that you’re at least somewhere in the ballpark of where you need to be for retirement.

If you’re doing well for retirement, I would cut back on the retirement savings and redirect the money into educational savings. If you’re not doing well, I would take the slow route, maintaining your retirement and looking for other ways (more earnings, perhaps?) to bolster your education savings. Either that, or bite the bullet and use an educational loan.

You may also want to consider a 529 savings plan for your college savings. If you use the earnings in that account for educational purposes, you don’t have to pay taxes on the accrued interest.

Q2: Consolidating private student loans
I currently owe approximately $120,000 in private student loans from college and graduate school. I am looking to consolidate them to get control of the monthly payments (right now, it’s around $1500 a month). I also two small government loans, but I do not want to consolidate them with these. The only information I’ve found is Chase and Wells Fargo are possibilities, but I will never go with them, they’ve been a nightmare to work within the past. I’m considering a loan from my credit union, but my credit score is not good. I do not own a house and I am single. I make a little over $50,000 a year between my main job and a part-time job. Are there any other options out there to consolidate other than Wells Fargo and Chase, and are they safe? Or does the credit union have a potential option?

- Pam

I’m afraid that if you have a poor credit score, you haven’t got a very good chance of reducing your interest rates lowered via a private student loan consolidation.

When you’re consolidating a set of private student loans, you’re essentially just trading one student loan for another one. You’ll go through many of the same evaluations as a person would when applying for a normal student loan and will get an offer that reflects upon your current credit standing and your income.

My suggestion to you would be to focus on repairing your credit above all else. If you are earning $50,000 a year, your monthly student loan payments are manageable if you keep your personal life under control and live lean. Keep current on all of your debts for a while.

When you do consider consolidating, I would look to the banks that you’re already borrowing from (and thus have established a solid payment history with) and inquire with them about a consolidation. If you wish to seek other banks, Chase and Wells Fargo are certainly options, as is your local credit union.

Much of this hinges on having a solid credit rating, however. If your rating is poor, you’re not going to get the best rates on a loan consolidation.

Q3: Gift exchange ideas
My extended family is getting together the week after Christmas. We always do a gift exchange, but every year it seems like everyone gets something they don’t want. We don’t want to abandon the gift exchange, but we don’t want to just tell each other what we want, either. Do you have any ideas?

- Carrie

My suggestion is that you shouldn’t worry so much about the gift, but instead focus on the exchange. How can you make the exchange itself more fun?

One way to do that is to put some huge restrictions on the gift. This year, everyone in the exchange is giving their favorite movie as a gift. Next year, everyone is giving their favorite book as a gift. What this does is it encourages both givers and recipients to talk about the things they’re passionate about with people they care about.

Another way to do that is to make the exchange into a bit of a game. Try a “yankee swap,” for example. A “yankee swap” happens when everyone opens their gifts in a certain order (usually going around the room). When you open your item, you show it to everyone, then you can “swap” your newly-opened item for an item someone else has already opened. The first person to open doesn’t get to swap when they open, of course, but they instead get the chance to be the last person to swap, choosing from among everything.

Liven it up and make it fun. Remember that it’s about the exchange, not about the gift. It’s about the time spent with loved ones and the shared experience.

Q4: Buying a minivan
I have a 2001 Lincoln Town Car with 150k+ miles on it. I love it, it’s paid for and I budget for its expense throughout the year fairly comfortably.

My wife and I own three dogs and we travel around the country to basset hound rescue events. (I write a mystery series that features a basset hound and I give the proceeds of the book sales to the rescues.

I’m interested in buying minivan for the dogs to travel in on long trips and to be able to hold boxes of books, luggage etc. I’ve even bought some books on how to convert a minivan into a makeshift RV.

I plan on keeping my Lincoln and using the minivan on other than long trips to prolong its life. I know you did lots of research before purchasing your car. I want a functional and comfortable used minivan and want to know your suggestions for thing s like how much mileage, year, model etc that you might recommend considering the way I intend to use it….that is, hauling dogs, long trips and some around town use.
- Tom

Given that you’re going to be driving on long trips with a number of animals on board, my reaction would be that your utmost priority with a minivan purchase would be reliability.

Typically, if you’re looking at a late model used (covering model years from roughly 2004 to 2008), the Honda Odyssey and Toyota Sienna are on top of the pile with regards to reliability, so I would steer you in their direction.

We looked at several Odysseys and Siennas before settling on a great deal on a Honda Pilot (a SUV).

Q5: Credit report questions
I just got a copy of me and my husband’s (of 2 years now) annual free credit reports and have a couple questions for you. I had excellent 25 years of credit and was able to buy a house a little above my means a year before we were married (2007). Despite the slight loss in value, we are managing the payment just fine. Now, with all the credit regulation changes, my credit card limits have all been reduced and my debt/credit ratio is 93% because of my mortgage. My husband’s credit was not that great because he had some late payments on some bills. When we got married, in 2008, we paid off his bills and canceled most of his credit accounts and are using mine as one joint account and several authorized user accounts. We pay them off every month except the mortgage. Now, with our one joint account, his debt/credit ratio is 7%.

My question is, in about 5 years, we want to sell this house and buy farm type property to retire. I don’t think we will have much of a problem but want to ensure we have good enough credit to get a good deal. To improve my husband’s debt/credit ratio further, should we make all our accounts joint rather than authorized user?

How can I reduce my debt/credit ratio other than continuing to pay down the mortgage that is all in my name? Does it really matter, based on our goals to eventually sell the house and purchase something else of equitable value? Between this house and another rental house, I have about $300,000 equity.

Also, the end of the credit report lists about 8 credit report requests that may harm our credit and another list that will not harm credit. I do not recognize any of the names on the list that may harm our credit and we only applied for one, Sears, credit card this year. Do you know why we would have so many names on the list of credit report request that may harm our credit and how we would correct it and prevent these requests in the future? We have already opted out of the permission to allow promotional requests for our credit report.
- Laura

Your best bet for improving your debt-to-credit ratio, short of applying for more cards (which has its own set of problems), is to simply focus on lowering that mortgage. Not only will it improve your credit, it’s also one of the better places to put your money in terms of a secure return right now.

Your husband’s ratio is fine – I wouldn’t worry about a 7% ratio one bit.

As for the credit requests, most of them only have a very short and small negative impact on your score. If you’re seriously worried about them, I would spend some time tracking down where exactly the requests came from. Usually, you’ll find that in some way, you initiated the “hard pulls” (the ones that can have a negative impact).

Q6: Splitting mortgage payments
My current house payment (with escrow for insurance, tax, and FHA insurance) is just over $1000/mo with an actual rate of 5.25%. The loan portion of the payment is around $700. I have been paying $1200/mo to pay down additional principle because I calculated that the small amount each month will shorten the life of the loan significantly. I am wondering if splitting my payment over the 1st and 15th of the month would speed up the payment significantly? My additional payments total to around $2200/year, which is nearly 3 additional payments on the loan. Is there an easy way to calculate the difference that bi-weekly payments would make?

- Alex

The amount you would save by splitting your payment is roughly what you would earn on $600 at 5.25% interest over 15 days. This adds up to $1.31 per payment – in other words, not too much to worry about.

Over a long period, that extra $1.31 will add up, but it will at most add up to a partial single payment at the end of your loan.

My suggestion to you is that if you can automate all of this, go ahead and do it. It will amount to a small bit of savings along the way, particularly if that early payment causes no cash flow issues for you right now.

Q7: Walking away
I am 53 years old. I was married for 34 years and have two grown children, both gainfully employed with retirement plans in place and health insurance coverage. For the most part, my work is done. Just as my husband i were looking toward the future, he was diagnosed with terminal cancer on January 1, 2009 and died in March of this year. Prior to his death, he worked for the same company for 31+ years with good benefits. I work, but it was more to keep me busy than a need for the income. Prior to his death, Jerry and I managed to get out of debt with the exception of our house and start saving. Fast forward 8 months later. When Jerry died, I believed I had life insurance benefits and did not worry overly much. Most of our “emergency” funds were used up during his illness. I took FMLA leave the last four months of his life and took care of him full time. While he had life insurance benefits through his job, I didn’t realize until he was on disability that once you’re on disability, those benefits are substantially reduced. Also, while you’re on disability because of a terminal illness, it’s impossible to get life insurance. It’s like chasing your tail.

Now the situation has changed. Upon his passing, I learned that I have a huge mortgage payment and very little insurance to cover it. I make about $50,000.00 per year. I have collectively $110,000.00 in a 401(k); I have $70,000.00 in savings and except for the house, no debt. I have two cars, both free and clear. That’s it. In a perfect world, I make enough to pay my expenses and to save something every month and enjoy my life; however, the mortgage payment of $1,300.00 on the first and $300.00 on the second is killing me. I have to take money out of savings every month to make ends meet. While the house is (was) in both our names, the mortgage was in his name only. I have not told the mortgage company about Jerry’s passing, I simply make the payments every month and they leave me alone. I could and will put the house on the market, but I owe approximately $170,000.00 on the house and cannot hope to cover that in this market, but I will try. With winter fast approaching in northeast Ohio, it is not the optimal time to list your house. Not only do I need to sell the house because I cannot afford it, but it’s a large, 5-bedroom, 4 bathroom house and I’m the only occupant. The energy bills alone are monumental. Also, my commute is approximately one hour each way to work. I need to live closer to my work and in a smaller house.

Here’s my question and it’s twofold. I would like to stay in the house over the winter because now is not the time to list it. I would like to put the house on the market in the spring when everything looks better. If, after a reasonable period of time, I cannot sell the house, I would like to call the bank and tell them they can have it. How badly will this hurt my credit? I never worried about it before because everything was in his name but now that I’m on my own, my credit score is (obviously) more important to me. Secondly, if I do manage to sell the house, it will be, I’m sure, at a shortfall. Will I be responsible for any leftover debt? I feel like I’ve been merely existing these last 8 months but I’m ready to at least start looking ahead so any information you can provide me would be sincerely appreciated. While I do not want to “beat” anybody out of money, I’m not so naive as to believe that a lending company will care overly much about my future. If, after reading this, you have other ideas that I haven’t thought about, by all means, please tell me. Any advice you can give me is appreciated. Thank you.
- Jo

Essentially, you’re asking what kind of impact walking away from your home and your mortgage will have on your credit. It will have a very serious negative impact on your credit, as the mortgage will be marked as being in default.

What does that mean? Negative items on your credit report have the greatest impact right when they appear, and that impact slowly shrinks over time, eventually disappearing after seven years (for most things). In your case, your credit will be completely shot for a year or two and will slowly begin to recover after that.

My suggestion is that you have a conversation with your lender before considering this move. Obviously, they are not going to want you to walk away from this, either – they don’t really want the deed to your home. Many banks are working with the people who own these homes to come up with better lending arrangements for both parties.

Q8: Finding a credit union
I’m looking to refinance my condo. Unfortunately, I own two companies and my W2 situation is a mess because one was started less than 2 years ago. That means despite having a 800+ credit score and over $100k in savings, my local banks computers just bounces back my application. I was told to try a credit union that doesn’t do automatic processing and I would probably have better luck. My question is how do I pick / research a credit union? There’s a lot in my state ( Illinois ) and city ( Chicago ). While there are a few reviews on yelp, they are few and far between.

Is there any place that rates / reviews credit unions?
- Griffin

There is no central clearinghouse for credit union reviews that I’m aware of. As you mentioned, yelp has some reviews, as do other services like Angie’s List.

My suggestion is that you simply ask around your social network. Ask your business associates what credit unions they use and recommend. What shops do good work and which ones have a bad reputation?

I tend not to trust online review aggregations from anonymous people because so often there are employees and owners putting up bogus positive reviews and competitors putting up bogus negative reviews.

Q9: Leaving an underwater condo
My wife and I each have identical condos, same lay out, same neighborhood. She bought hers for $200K, and I bought mine for $250K each with a 5/1 ARM loan. Her ARM came to term last year and is paying 3 points on top of the LIBOR index (luckily the LIBOR is very very low for now). My ARM comes to term next August with the same terms, 3 points on top of the LIBOR index. Refinancing is tough right now because we are underwater on both condos. But we are making our payments on time with no problems and don’t neccesarily have hardship. We don’t fall for any government funded help through Freddie Mac or Fannie Mae, so it seems we are out of luck there. We are currently renting her condo and living on mine. Our ultimate goal is to buy a single family, or townhome. My question is how should we go about this? Short sale both condos? Pay off her condo as much as possible to build equity, then sell it, or just continue to rent it and try to pay off the smaller loan then refinance? Short sale my condo, and live in hers? or Vice Versa? Try to talk with our lenders to get a better rate? The condos are small and not practical for two people but we are adjusting? Or do we just have to wait it out a couple of years? How many paths are there to this problem?

- Henry

If you have a good payment history, the first thing I suggest that you do is talk to your lender. Discuss the options with them and let them know that a short sale is something that you are considering. See what kind of packages they can come up with for you.

You can also take the same story to other banks who may be interested in picking you up as a customer, though they won’t have as much incentive as your current lenders.

I think most of this comes down to how underwater you are on these loans and whether or not your bank actually will refinance them in some sensible way. I can’t predict that – you’ll have to find out for yourself.

Q10: Tax breaks for window coverings?
I have looked high and low, both online and in stores, for information on the tax credit for energy efficient window coverings. I keep coming up with the same thing – “consult your tax professional to verify you qualify for the savings.” Well, guess what. I am the tax professional in this family – I do our taxes on TurboTax every year (splitting the cost of the software with family members.) Anyway, what information can the tax professional can read and understand that I can’t? Do you know the details of this credit? Thanks in advance for considering this question.

- Janelle

What’s actually happening here is that window covering manufacturers and salesmen are using some ambiguities in the tax code to promote something that isn’t really there.

Yes, there are a lot of tax breaks for energy efficient home improvements right now, as you can see here. The catch is that such tax breaks only apply for items that are “specifically and primarily designed to reduce heat loss or gain,” according to the IRS.

The problem is that the burden is on the homeowner to prove this, not on the manufacturer. The manufacturer can claim all they want that there are tax credits available for window coverings, but they only apply if the window coverings are highly efficient and are made primarily to reduce heat, like a rectangle that blocks all light and heat coming through the window.

Get window coverings that look good and are maybe a little efficient. Don’t waste your time trying to chase tax benefits through a vaguely written law unless you want to spend time proving to the IRS that your new window coverings actually provide a .30 solar heat gain coefficient in your home. If you want to save tax dollars with your windows, improve the windows themselves.

Got any questions? Email them to me or leave them in the comments and I’ll attempt to answer them in a future mailbag. However, I do receive hundreds of questions per week, so I may not necessarily be able to answer yours.

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