Comments on: Some Thoughts on Handling Life’s Crossroads

By: Matt

Matt — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 13:05:26 +0000

Crossroads is a restaurant in our area that shut down within 6 months of opening. Just saying :-P

By: Georgia

Georgia — Sat, 22 Oct 2011 02:02:36 +0000

Karla – I had the same decision to make over 48 years ago. I had an absolutely fabulous, well paying job that would also send me overseas to work. I met a wonderful man. The man won. My mother was afraid I would regret my decision, as I had always wanted to travel. But, I read what a very wise man said about regret – If you had taken the path you regret not doing, what guarantee have you that it would have worked out? No guarantees in life, so good luck making your decision and sticking to it. Regrets are too negative to allow into your life.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 16:08:50 +0000

I recently heard someone on the radio talking about how they made a big life altering decision. For 1-2 days they decided that they would act as if they were going with option A, particularly related to self-talk. Then for another couple of days doing the same with option B. You can start to see and sense your true opinion of things like, oh I wont be at this park anymore or eat at this little corner restaurant when I live 2,000 miles away. Are those evoking positive or negative feelings about the decision. At least for the person talking on the radio it gave them clarity and helped them make their decision.

By: Karla

Karla — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 14:19:55 +0000

Well timed for me, as well. I have to decide between an amazing work opportunity that would take me overseas and a new but promising relationship. Two long time dreams in direct conflict, ugh. Maybe there’s a blog for that so I can read it and know the right answer? :)

By: kc

kc — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 03:10:45 +0000

You can find a lot of good tips on reddit.

By: Squirrelers

Squirrelers — Fri, 21 Oct 2011 02:23:00 +0000

Good thoughts here. I absolutely agree that conversations with those experienced in the same type of crossroads can be invaluable. Sometimes, there’s nothing like actual experience to be able to guide or advise someone through the finer points of different choices.

By: Gal @ Equally Happy

Gal @ Equally Happy — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 23:48:16 +0000

This is well timed for me Brent. I’m considering leaving my current job and starting my own business. I’ve been putting this off because I’m scared of the risk but the truth is that I dislike my job. Starting my own business would be a lot of fun, I have the savings to do it and if I fail I can always find another job in my field. I have no downside and all the upside.

Thank you,
Gal

By: valleycat1

valleycat1 — Thu, 20 Oct 2011 22:01:50 +0000

Once you’ve got the list of pro’s and con’s, you need to weight and/or rank the various items. You could have a lot of what you consider minor entries in one column and one much weightier entry in the other – sheer length of one column’s list isn’t the sole deciding factor. And sometimes by writing a pro or con down you realize it isn’t that big a deal, or is a much bigger deal than you’d thought.