Comments on: Personal Finance Is Rarely Black and White

By: Johanna

Johanna — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 19:30:06 +0000

Maybe Bob’s parents don’t need help, for reasons unrelated to Bob being single. Honestly, seems like y’all are criticizing just to criticize here. Coupon.

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 16:22:48 +0000

Bob isn’t even a real person, so saying he didn’t like dating was unnecessary.

And just because he is single doesn’t mean he won’t have to help out elderly parents, like Charlotte.

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By: glenna

glenna — Sat, 09 Jun 2012 12:39:12 +0000

To me, the not liking dating meant that he is single and plans to remain that way, so he can plan based on that. Just saying he is single.. I would tend to jump ahead and think, well, he can’t necessarily plan on remaining single, since so many who are single prefer not to be, so they are either actively looking or hoping and sending out those kinds of vibes. And most who do not wish to remain single, do not, so saying he doesn’t like dating told me a lot.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 20:34:58 +0000

I felt like it *was* a shallow attempt at justification for why Bob was single, and it grated on me because why Bob was single doesn’t *need* a justification. If it’s his choice, it’s his choice, he doesn’t need an ‘excuse’ or a ‘reason’.

IE, the being SINGLE is important because he’s not financially responsible for anyone but himself. The not liking dating is just irrelevant and fussy detail.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:33:23 +0000

@K: Really? I just read it to mean that he’s not financially responsible for anyone but himself. Which is certainly relevant to the example.

By: K

Fri, 08 Jun 2012 19:28:36 +0000

I agree- single by choice happens for many reasons. And single by choice isnt the same as “not like dating.”

As does “childfree by choice” happens for manay reasons too- another “not as common” thing Trent doesn’t seem to get.

I don’t get what not “liking dating” has to do with the example Trent uses at all. It makes no sense
It’s like saying “Mark, who has blue eyes” wants to “retire to help at the food pantry”.
I almost feel that the “not like dating” is tossed in to imply the example person is ALONE and has nothing to live for but the pantry. It deosn’t ring true- most people, single or not, are not alone.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 18:43:46 +0000

Seriously, there are plenty of people who are single by choice for all sorts of reasons. We don’t owe you a justification of our choices just because they’re “less common.”

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 18:39:57 +0000

@Tracy: Maybe he would enjoy being in a relationship, but not so much that he thinks it’s worth it to overcome his dislike of dating.

By: Tracy

Tracy — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 18:11:00 +0000

Heh, the weird thing for me was the conflation between “doesn’t enjoy dating, so he plans on remaining single” as if those two were intrinsically linked. Enjoying dating and enjoying being in a relationship aren’t the same things at all! They’re two separate ticky boxes and all four combinations of like/dislike can apply.

By: K

Fri, 08 Jun 2012 18:08:29 +0000

I didnt say my life expereinces define everything.
but again Trent has chosen the “not as common” as a example in todays post.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 17:08:35 +0000

That’s great for you, K. But your (and your friends’) experiences do not define everyone’s.

By: K

Fri, 08 Jun 2012 17:06:35 +0000

I could totally see someone not enjoying dating when the people you meet are not fun /cool/nice.

But dating went it goes well or you meet people who are interesting that end up being your friends cause you didnt want to date them is …. nice.

And honestly, many times dating as a woman is not as enjoyable as dating as a man is, at least thats what it seems like from seeing my friends date.

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:51:53 +0000

(Let the jokes/insults fly, y’all. I’m ready.)

By: Johanna

Johanna — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:50:24 +0000

@K: I’m not a dude, but I’m happy to admit that I don’t enjoy dating.

By: K

Fri, 08 Jun 2012 16:37:10 +0000

Who doesn’t “enjoy” dating?
particularly a dude.

By: Vanessa

Vanessa — Fri, 08 Jun 2012 15:51:04 +0000

If your situation is close Charlotte’s why wouldn’t you tell her to pay off her house as quickly as possible, as you did? coupon