Seven Things I Thought About While Holding My Second Child For The First Time

As I held my daughter for the first time, I looked down at her and thought several things at once, which I later jotted down in a journal. A few of these are relevant to personal finance – some are not – but overall I thought they painted a great picture of why it’s worthwhile to get your financial house in order.

She looks like her mother. Already, even with all of the wrinkles and stretching that come naturally to an infant’s head. She is her mother repeated, with maybe just a faint hint of my mother in the cheekbones.

She smells like baby. I remember for the first few months when my son smelled this way. It’s a unique smell that’s almost impossible to describe to others. I just call it “new baby smell.”

I am incredibly glad I got my financial life in order. When I held my son in my arms, there was a sense of “Oh my God, what am I going to do now?” Not with her – everything felt just right. Getting your financial house in order makes it possible for so much of life to go so much easier.

She’s smaller than I expected. I knew how small an infant was from my son, but I guess in some ways I had almost forgotten how small newborns actually are. She’s just this little, tiny, defenseless person.

She has so many things going for her. She’s healthy, she has two parents that already adore her, an older brother to show her the way, a beautiful house to live in, four incredible doting grandparents, and a huge army of aunts and uncles and cousins who will love her and take care of her. She’s an incredibly lucky little girl.

My wife is an incredibly brave and powerful woman. If you ever doubt this about a woman, watch a woman during the act of childbirth. It’s amazing in every way. I truly respect the effort, pain, and work that a woman goes through to give birth.

Everything is changing – again. We’re going to go home and suddenly there will be two children in diapers, one of which will not be on any sort of regular sleeping schedule. I am very thankful that my wife is able to take a couple of months off of work to take care of the new baby.

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52 thoughts on “Seven Things I Thought About While Holding My Second Child For The First Time

  1. miguel says:

    Congratulations on the new arrival!

  2. eric says:

    Congratulations!

    Found the site recently and I’m hooked.

  3. demetri says:

    Congratulations.

    I must say- i fully expected a weeks worth of old articles and pre-written posts. I cant believe you are sending us new articles post baby!

    I for one will not be upset at all and I will continue to read your blog if you took more time off!

  4. Christine says:

    I’m curious, what is her name? How big was she? Congratulations!

  5. k says:

    Congratulations. Your kid is very fortunate, indeed.

  6. Congratulations to you and your wife.

  7. Wonderful post, Trent. Congratulations on the new addition to The Simple Family. I wish you all the best.

  8. Scott says:

    Congratulations! Now, take some time off and enjoy this week!

  9. Kenny says:

    good job, Trent. Remember to bring your son a small little toy when the baby comes home to remind him that he’s special, too!

  10. Congratulations on the new member of your family !

  11. paidtwice says:

    Congratulations!!! I have been anxiously waiting for confirmation of birth lol.

  12. E says:

    Congrats to you and your wife, Trent!

  13. Jack says:

    You do a great thing for many people and you spend time with and support your family. Congrats on your newly born daughter and keep up the good work. Everyone you help appreciates it.

  14. Chris says:

    Congratulations Trent!

  15. Queercents says:

    Trent,

    This is wonderful news! And you have given your children a fantastic gift by getting your finances in order. You’re living a rich life in so many ways.

  16. Laura says:

    Congratulations!

    (Kenny, one of my favorite gifts for an older sibling is a book about new babies. I’ve been known to give such titles as Just Me and My Little Sister or Just Me and My Little Brother by Mercer Mayer. But maybe that’s just my inner librarian talking!)

  17. Brandon says:

    Congrats Trent, with my first child coming in the next few weeks, I’ve been reading your experiences very intently, and how you relate them to personal finance. Thanks for all the great articles, and be sure to take some time off for the new baby – we can all certainly wait a few days for a fresh article!

  18. DJ says:

    Congratulations, Trent!

  19. Kyle says:

    Trent, Congrats! Funny, I can remember with my first thinking, “now what am I going to do” as well. My financial house was a diasater then. That was almost 6 years ago and now we just had our third and our financial house is in order and what a relief that is! Good Stuff.

  20. Susan says:

    Congratulations! There is nothing more precious than that “new baby smell” – breathe deep, for it disappears far too quickly. You are very blessed to have two beautiful children – cherish them.

  21. kman says:

    God bless you and your family! Always uplifting to hear good news.

  22. guinness416 says:

    Hey once again mazel tov, Trent and family! Nice time of the year for birthday parties.

  23. brent says:

    yep, congratulations.

    But tell the truth: you were also thinking #8 “This is going to make a great blog post”

  24. Cheryl says:

    CONGRATULATIONS! Your family has been very blessed!

  25. vh says:

    Way to go, Mrs. Trent! And congratulations, Trent!

    Only 25 years to go before they’re grown…. Enjoy!

  26. junger says:

    Congrats, Trent and Mrs. Trent!

  27. Brian S says:

    Congratulations, Trent! My wife just told me tonight that we’ll be having our third child in another 8 months or so, so your post today hit an especially strong note to a long-term reader / first time commenter.

  28. Danielle says:

    You’re making me crave another one (but for just a split second)!! Then I remember the sleepless nights and the craziness of life with a newborn, but it is all worth it to have such an amazing miracle!! Enjoy every minute and soak it all in. I can’t believe my baby girl is already three and half!!
    Congratulations to you and your family!!

  29. lilgreenfish says:

    Congrats on the new baby!

  30. Smarty says:

    Congratulations!!

    Have you started contributing to the college fund yet?

  31. Dennis G says:

    Congratulations Trent.
    I’ve a daughter of 8 months old, and it is just so wonderful. I’ve been told that it is different then getting a son.

    You might want to check the site: http://www.mrdad.com/ a father of three daughters :)

    Looking forward to your new insights.

    Cheers

    Dennis

  32. J.D. says:

    Congrats, Trent! Get some sleep. :)

  33. FIRE Finance says:

    Congratulations Trent. We wish you and your family great health and well being.
    Cheers,
    FIRE Finance

  34. Jeabp says:

    Congratulation :-)

  35. Wade says:

    A big congratulations to you, Trent. Enjoy the time with your daughter and son this week.

  36. Bill says:

    Congratulations! I’ve been reading your site casually over the past few months and find it very informative. You’ve got the right attitude.

    I couldn’t be happier for you and your family! I, too, have a little boy (2 days shy of 21 months) with another baby on the way (due in early October), so I ‘get’ what you’re talking about (worries, sleepless nights, two kids in diapers, infinite joy that cannot be matched by anything on earth, etc.).

    Best of luck to you!

  37. Gina says:

    Congratulations on your new little daughter and thank you for sharing your thoughts with us!

  38. plonkee says:

    Congratulations and good luck with the sleep deprivation.

  39. Sabine says:

    Congratulations to the new addition!

  40. Gina says:

    Congratulations to the Trents. Welcome little girl! Sounds like you have it all.

  41. CMMiller says:

    Congrads!!!

  42. lsh says:

    Congratulations! My first child was born two months ago. While she’s not ready yet, I’ll share your advice when she’s old enough.

  43. Matt says:

    Congrats on the Baby!!

  44. Suzanne says:

    Congratulations to the whole family!!
    I have two boys 16months apart and wish I had had my finances in order! I have been reading the simple dollar for 5 months and absolutely love it! When you have more time, I will bombard you with all my questions! Enjoy the miracle of life!!

  45. Liz says:

    Congratulations Trent! Love your blog.

  46. Leanne says:

    Congratulations! Sounds like she’s one very lucky little girl :)

  47. Fee says:

    Congratulations! I loved your post. And I appreciate your writing during this special time. Yes, I agree wih Leanne that your daughter and family are quite lucky to have a dad like you. Enjoy!

  48. Sandra Jensen says:

    Yea! We have been waiting! You are an inspiration to us – your daughter is lucky you had your “meltdown”. I bet it didn’t feel like such a blessing at the time.

    My best to your wife – I’m with the others – send us some reruns and enjoy your family.

  49. Jackie says:

    Congratulations to Mom & Dad both on your new arrival. You now have what was known as a Million Dollar Family. One of each and the boy the oldest. Both of you sleep when you can and love & support each other during the difficult times. My baby is now 25 and 6’4″ and he was a premie. :) Again all my best to all 4 of you. Enjoy.

  50. Lisa K says:

    Congrats on the new arrival! I’m sure your wife will appreciate your loving & supportive words. Labor is not for everyone!!!

  51. Jason says:

    Happy Birthday!

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