It would be easy for me to write some nice platitudes today about my wife (the mother of my children) or my own mother. I could go on for a long time about how wonderful these two women are, the most important two women in my life.
But I really don’t need to.
We don’t need a special day to celebrate the genuinely important things in our lives.
If something is truly important in your life, then it deserves value and care and love and attention every day. It should be the centerpiece and the focus of your life.
That focus is represented not in money but in time.
If you find yourself feeling guilty about things left undone and want to use material gifts bought on Mother’s Day or Father’s Day or Christmas, then you have a choice – and it requires some honesty with yourself.
Is this relationship really important to you or do you just feel like it’s supposed to be important to you?
If it’s truly important to you, then every day is Mother’s Day (or Father’s Day or so on). The gift that really matters – the gift of time – is something that you can constantly share throughout the year. Calling your mother on Mother’s Day is great, but if the relationship is really important to you, what about the other 51 Sundays out of the year? And what about the other days, too?
If it’s not truly important to you yet you feel the need to keep up some sort of appearance, then you’ve got a weight on your life, a relationship with uneven obligations and feelings that need to be dealt with so that you can lead a more focused life. Something is missing in that relationship and if it causes guilt, then you need to spend the time and the energy it takes to fix it, for better or for worse. It’s not only hugely beneficial for you, but it’s also good for the other person you care about.
When your life revolves around what’s truly important to you, financial decisions become easier. Time management choices become easier. Emotional decisions become easier. Goal setting becomes easier. Problem resolution becomes easier.
Why? Because it’s very clear to you what actually is important and what’s not.
Remember, the truest way to invest in the things that are really important to you is time, not money. If your mother is genuinely important to you, give her a call today. But give her a call regularly as well. Visit her. Drop by and do an errand for her. If you do that, then finding some “perfect” gift for Mother’s Day becomes a whole lot less important. The same principle is true for anything else that’s truly important to you, from your career to your money and your hobbies.
It’s all about the time and energy, consistently spent.