When Everyday Life Gets in the Way of Your Dreams

A Plan To Get Past It

A reader wrote in with the following complaint:

You write all the time about starting a side business and about chasing your dreams but it’s all kind of a waste of time. Chasing your dreams is childish. Adults have things that they need to do. After all, 1 Corinthians 13:11 says “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”

HouseFirst of all, actually standing up and chasing your dreams is not a childish thing at all. It may be immature to sit around and do nothing but merely dream, but actually doing something about that dream – and also not let down the people that rely on you – takes a lot of courage and commitment.

The problem that many people have with really chasing their dream is twofold:

First, for many people, their dream is far too nebulous to do anything about. One of my closest friends talks regularly about writing a great novel, but when I ask any specific questions about it, she tightens up. Another friend of mine seems to want to be “rich,” but when I ask why, there’s no real reason that he can state. They’re both looking at goals that are far, far too nebulous to ever reach for.

Second, many people allow everyday life to get in the way of chasing the dream. It’s a lot easier to go to work, come home, do a few chores, and watch some television than it is to actually work at chasing a big dream. I know that quite often in the evenings, I’m beat, and the last thing I want to think about is some giant nebulous thing that I’d like to do – the sheer weight of it makes me even more tired.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Trust me – if you have a big, audacious dream:
Even if your life is incredibly busy and your finances are in shambles, you can start to make it happen.

Developing A Plan to Follow Your Dreams

1. Write down what your dream is

This is the first thing, and this is something you can do immediately. It doesn’t have to be specific. In fact, it can be as nebulous as you want. Here, I’ll do it, too, so you don’t feel alone.

I’d like to have a book published.

Just write it down somewhere and think about it. Write it on a piece of paper that you keep in your pocket.

2. Whenever you can add a detail to it, write that detail down

Seriously. Just scribble out the old one and write the addition, or use an arrow to insert a key phrase. Keep adding more and more detail to the dream as you think of it. Here, I’ll also play along.

I’d like to write a positive book on personal finances, not necessarily a book about strict advice (since I’m not an expert on it), but on the traps that young people face with money today and how a modern twentysomething can escape a desperate situation. I’d like to pitch this idea to a major publishing house, get a big bite on it, and get an advance to actually write the book.

This is actually a dream sketch I had a while back – I’ve kept detailing it from there and the dream plan currently fills up about four pages.

3. Keep in mind the key components of actualizing your dream

Key things such as time commitments, how much these commitments will cost you, and the specifics of the exact thing you want to achieve.

When the dream starts to get quite detailed, enough so that it begins to actually step out of the clouds of nebulousness and become something tangible that you can actually understand, think of the first step you can take to make that dream happen. Again, I’ll play along:

The first step is to write a killer blog post for The Simple Dollar, one that expresses some specific thought or element that I’m considering for this eventual book, and fleshes out just that one point.

This step gives you a very specific action that you can follow to get started. It moves this dream from something tangible.

4. Bounce your ideas off of friends and family that you trust

I bounce different little pieces of the dream off of people all the time, just to see if what’s going on in my own head matches what’s going on elsewhere.

What’s next? Get started on that first step – and do that one thing as well as you can. The second step will follow from there. It might be a very long walk, but that first step is the most important one.

Other Effective Tips:

Learn how to live frugally

This enables two things: first, you start saving money now because you’re spending far less than you make, and second, when you go to make a big life change to follow your dreams (or a big life change is forced on you), you’re already prepared with the frugal living skills you’ll need.

Turn off the television

This is the single best move I’ve made in terms of giving me the freedom to work towards my dreams. Instead of draining my brain in front of the television for a few hours each night, I instead do other things that are more fulfilling and much more in line with my big dreams.

Stop caring what others think

The sooner you do that, the better. The only people whose opinions should matter to you are the people you truly care about. For me, that means keeping clean, but not dressing to keep up appearances. It also means not being ashamed in the least of a giant compost bin in the backyard or of the fact that I may be driving the oldest vehicle in the neighborhood. Let the neighbors enjoy their Lexus and look funny at my older truck – I’m deeply contented with the things I have in my life and the path I’m following.

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  1. Christine says:

    Excellent post! People don’t always realize that it takes more than dreaming to reach your dreams – you actually have to be willing to work towards them and make sacrifices to reach them.

  2. Sheila says:

    You could not be more correct about the television. I laughed at the description of TV as Time Vacuum, until I decided that I was spending too much of my valuable time watching programming that left me numb. Now I really restrict my viewing to only those shows that I really enjoy and have much more time to pursue other hobbies and even take some classes.

  3. How depressing to feel that having dreams is childish! Trent, I very much appreciate your attitude here; it strikes a nice balance of pragmatism and idealism.

  4. TylerK says:

    Don’t feed the troll!

  5. Amanda B. says:

    Dreams are childish? Maybe if your dream is to get rich eating candy and to have a pet zebra…

  6. Avlor says:

    Go Trent!

    I feel the write in comment tried to state a point and pulled a verse that didn’t show how the fist statement was true. They just tried to add weight to their thought by pulling in a respected source. That was really reaching. Even I can see the flaw in logic there. (That’s saying something when I notice it.)

    I hope that person really has dreams and just doesn’t realize it. How sad to think someone doesn’t have aspirations and they criticize those who do. Without dreams, this stay at home mom would be bored to tears. I love my family and work hard for them. But I need something besides laundry and dishes. Several of my dreams include my family. One of them is teaching my son photography and having 3 generations of our family with the same hobby. Hey if that’s childish then I’ll just be childish.

  7. Avlor says:

    (laughs) I wish I’d see TylerK’s comment before I submitted mine. How true. ;)

  8. Mrs. Micah says:

    Wouldn’t Paul’s journeys actually seem kind of childish to post people–pursuing a holy quest instead of settling down and earning a good living? The hermeneutics of the complaint are rather frightening.

    I think that without dreams, hopes, goals, and even a bit of naivite, everyday life becomes a painful chore. May even Mr./Ms. grumpypants find some exciting dream which makes them excited to get out of bed!

    And best of luck to all of you who’d like to start sidebusinesses!

  9. mijadedinah says:

    Thank you for the explanation & advice on how, practically, to find the time to chase after one’s dreams.
    I particularly agree with “turn off the tv”; my husband and I don’t watch tv, and we don’t miss it. What we can do is spend time with the hobbies and activities we enjoy, or just spending time together.

  10. UltraRob says:

    I can’t imagine many people succeeding without a dream. There are lots of examples in the Bible of people having dreams and pursuing them even to the ridicule of people around them.

    When I was in high school, I began dreaming about doing the Race Across America (RAAM) which is a 3,000 mile bike race that has to be finished in 12 days. I honestly didn’t think I’d ever be able to do it. Little by little I started doing longer races and then qualifed for RAAM. Last year I attempted it. I got injured a little over 1,000 miles into the race. I limped my way to the 2,000 mile mark before dropping out. Now I’m working on things to put me in a postion to attempt it again.

  11. Rob says:

    That is hands down one of the worst interpretations of the Bible I have ever seen. Paul is very obviously referring to spiritual development in the verse; not some quacked idea that it’s wrong to do what you wanted to do when you grow up. To think otherwise is extremely harmful and is why more than half of Americans hate their job.

    I suppose the original commenter can continue to go bury their talents, if they want to keep buying into that lie.

  12. jasonn says:

    And the guy uses the Bible of all sources to defend the notion that child-hood dreams are useless!

  13. Mella DP says:

    I hope Mr. Troll is misuing scripture intentionally…if he’s actually under the impression that he’s made a dignified use of text, that’s even more sad than his life philosophy.

    Pursuing your dreams is only childish if your dreams themselves are childish.

  14. Brian says:

    Great post! It’s so difficult to ignore the opinions of others sometimes, but so necessary. You’ve really done a great job with inspiration and the plan to back it up. Thanks for sharing.

  15. Rob in Madrid says:

    I can relate to how the person feels, probably he’s older burnt out tired of chasing the “American dream”. Possibly even like me he’s read every self help book out there, tried every network marketing gimmick, he’s grown abit cynical.

    For me the change came when I sat down and really looked at my values that my dreams began to change. I realized that my values are family and friends. Once I realized that my dreams became very simple. I want my wife to get out of the corporate world. To do that I told her, if we can get our cost of living below X dollars (or euros in our case) she can quit her job. It’s a simple concept, one that has changed everything. Suddenly that flat screen TV doesn’t look so appealing next to her quiting her job.

    I realize that she earns an above average wage and I work partime but trust me earning more doesn’t mean more assets it usually means more debt. Besides once you know your values your can align your dreams with them. Yes it sounds corny (and Trent could probably write a best seller on it) but it does work

  16. !wanda says:

    @Rob: Why your wife? You’re the one who most values family and friends and the one who makes less money. Earning more means that you can accumulate more assets if you avoid spending it.

  17. John says:

    To add a bit of compassion for the commenter in question, (and I truly hope it doesn’t sound patronizing), but not everyone draws the same hand in life.

    Looking at my parents shows me that very easily. As happy as they are for my brother and I in what we’re accomplishing what we are, I know them well enough to see the occasional drops of bitterness come through when they think of how hard they’ve had to work through life just to get by. They had dreams too I’m sure, but a lot of things can happen to put one in a position where one just doesn’t have the resources to go after dreams any bigger than putting food on the table.

    I’m not saying that one shouldn’t go after one’s dreams, it’s the most important thing one can hope to achieve. Mine are certainly pretty big in their own right. I just think that people need to be somewhat humble when considering the role that chance and fortune can have in one’s ability or inability to do so. (Which goes two ways, and should be part of planning for one’s dreams, not just in accounting for the aftermath.)

    Not sure if that’s where the commenter is coming from, but it’s worth noting that it’s a possibility before you judge them and their views on the world.

  18. robtwister says:

    I think having a big, detailed imagination is crucial. For instance, the more vivid and detailed your dream is, the more likely that it will be achieved.

    For people without huge imaginations, the dream remains abstract and unattainable. But if you can describe all the details about the dream, and the details become more pronounced as time goes on, then you have a good shot at implementing it.

    Trent mentioned writing it down somewhere and continuing to update it. I do something similar, but instead of writing, I keep symbols and reminders of the goal, which may be everyday objects.

    For instance, I had a certain savings goal I wanted to achieve. And I maintain an excel sheet daily where I track my net worth and all my accounts. So what I did was, create a ‘future’ excel sheet where I placed exactly how much each account should have eighteen months in the future. It had details on how much each account would have, as well as some new accounts that didn’t exist yet (but will, assuming I had achieved that goal). So it felt like I had already completed the goal, and that all I had to do was fill in the blanks in between (what actually happened was that it took me six months longer than I originally envisioned, but that’s ok). The excel file was a symbol and reminder of my dream, but it could be any innocuous item.

  19. Andre says:

    Thanks for taking time out for this Trent – that was a pretty lame and depressing email you got there…

  20. Trent, I think you did a great job of not ridiculing the sender of the email, but instead clarified things so that his statement could be proven out of context. Great handling of definitions as well as practical application of things so that we can all learn a thing or seven.

  21. MK says:

    I think big dreams are great (and have many of my own), but I cannot emphasize enough the importance of taking small steps towards one’s goal.

    I just finished closing out the last remnants of one of my big dreams (the restoration of a historic wooden boat) — it was *too* big, as it turns out. Ultimately, it cost me 5 years of stress and probably around $50k (and the boat was ultimately scrapped). I learned a lot, although I’m not sure the lessons were worth the cost; next time I will start MUCH smaller.

    Sometimes the people laughing at you are right. It’s tough to know when to listen to them vs forging ahead regardless.

    -M

  22. Anjanette says:

    ‘Eh, don’t mind them! The context of that verse is that things are temporary, but faith, hope, and love are permanent. Especially love. The passage is about all things being in transition and some things not being revealed until we reach perfection (the end).

    It is most certainly NOT about abandoning our child-like dreams. Paul uses that language later in the chapter to say “Stop thinking like children. In regard to evil be infants, but in your thinking be adults.” We are to try to maintain innocence like children in regards to our faith and our dealing with evil. And what is more innocent than Hope? Faith in the possibilities of the future is not a fault. :)

    “Truly I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God like a child shall not enter it at all.” Mark 10:15

    “Faith means being sure of the things we hope for and knowing that something is real even if we do not see it.”—Hebrews 11:1

  23. Mariette says:

    Great advice Trent! Especially the bit about the TV. Pulp novels and playing videogames can be another drain. There’s nothing wrong with these things but if you are trying to make your dreams a reality while holding down a day job – well there’s only so much time in the day. So if you’re playing video games or watching TV, you aren’t doing your thing to make that happen.

  24. Minimum Wage says:

    If you can’t pay for your dream, why bother?

  25. Mrs. Micah says:

    Since you’re beating the dead horse, MW….the point is to find a way to pay for your dreams.

  26. Debbie M says:

    Trent, you are brave to wish for an advance on your book. I would rather write the whole thing than promise someone who has already given me money that I would write it. Stress! Pressure!

    And then if I really did finish but no one wanted it I could always publish it online and print copies to give to my friends and other innocent bystanders. Like schoolteachers, probably, for the kind of book I would write.

    Minimum Wage, you could totally write a book for free. You can find writing implements on the ground, and half of all junk mail envelopes have space for writing on the back of them. Writing by hand on small scraps of paper makes you think long and hard and you might actually turn out better work than a person who can just spew things on a word processor thinking, “Hey, I can easily fix this later,” but then later forgetting why it needed fixing.

    Most publishers wouldn’t be too thrilled to receive a manuscript on the backs of envelopes, but you could probably find a friend with access to a computer and a printer who would type up and print out a letter and first chapter (or whatever gets sent). You could repay your friend with a home-cooked meal of spaghetti, home-made garlic bread, some in-season veggie, and brownies–totally cheap, yet a big treat for most people.

    You could probably get quite far on other dreams with thinking, library research, web research, interviewing people, and thinking out what things to do first, second, etc. And when you discuss your dreams with others, you may infect them with your enthusiasm and they will want to help you. Some resources are easy for most people to access, and they will be thrilled to help you get those if you have the creativity or whatever that is hard for most people to access.

  27. lorax says:

    Time Vacuum, wow! That’s great, and apropos.

    The reader unwittingly makes a point about religions. They are what you see in them.

  28. Louise says:

    I definitely agree that you should never give up on your dreams. I started painting about 10 years ago just for fun, and turned a hobby into a career. Now I’m working on being a writer. Also I’ve never really cared what other people think, and you’ll be suprised how few people do care. I drive a 1979 Sigma station wagon that I bought 14 years ago for $300. It is mechanically sound, safe, gets good mileage and is perfect for all my needs, so I’ve never seen a need to upgrade. Only two people have ever said I should upgrade it. When they did I replied “Why buy a new car when I can buy investment properties?” That shut them up. After all, you work for yourself and your family, not the neighbours.

  29. Laura says:

    Dreams are another word for goals, except that dreams are pursued with passion. My plan has been to *Do Something Every Day* toward the realization of my dream. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and so with patience, vision and a plan, I expect to achieve my goal of a self-sustaining music organization within 3 years.

  30. Minimum Wage says:

    What if you live frugally and still can’t save anything?

  31. Justin says:

    MW, get another job and work yourself out of the rat race. You focus too much on what you can’t do, instead of how to achieve your goals.

  32. Minimum Wage says:

    Yes, I have scheduling and transportation constraints which get in the way of a second job. (No car, plus morning medical appointments. I found some great janitor jobs at Intel, but they were swing shift and there was no way for me to get home.) Something I could do at home, on my own time, would be ideal, as it wouldn’t require any commute distance or time, plus it would be great for those times where I have a couple hours but not enough time for a shift at a workplace.

  33. Justin says:

    Well, just stop making excuses and do it!

  34. Minimum Wage says:

    I have to find it first. So far I’ve waded through a lot of spams and scams. (No, I haven’t sent any money.)

  35. kitty says:

    One consideration that I don’t see mention is the importance of being realistic about one’s abilities. Some dreams – becoming a singer, an actor, a dancer, a painter, a writer or a musician – require talent. If you have talent you may make it or not make it depending on chance, effort, how great your talent it and just plain luck. It is difficult, but at least you have a chance. But if you have no talent – no amount of effort, patience or passion will help. If you are tone deaf, you shouldn’t try to become a professional musician. If you are an average musician – just OK, but not better than millions of others, you might become a music teacher, but you’ll not be a concert performer no matter how hard you try. You need to think if former is OK with you before you try pursuing it as a career. One may have a nice enough voice, for example, to sing in church, but unless you have something that millions of others don’t, you will never sing at the Met, no matter how hard you try.

    Also, you shouldn’t always ignore what others think. If your friends tell you to shut up everytime you try to sing, than yes, you should listen since we don’t hear ourselves the way other hear us, and if they don’t want to listen to you, so you really think someone would pay to do so?

    A lot of people are clueless about their own abilities – just look at all those “pursuing their dreams” who end up making fools of themselves on national TV during American Idol or So You Think You Can Dance auditions. So the blanket advice to pursue one’s dreams and ignore what others think is not always right.

  36. Jonathan says:

    I’m in the process of doing all this myself. I’m three months into this thing, writing down, scheduling, etc., and although I’m resistant in areas, it’s becoming easier and easier to focus on what I’m going for.

  37. ursula says:

    Dreams! what is life without them, I neve have given up any dream, Allway at the end I achieve what I ambitioned. I can not change the life circunstances but I can choose how to approach every situation in life.
    I just start a blog, is a start, is not fancy but wait and watch me grow!
    http://art-summa.blogspot.com/
    Ursula

  38. Ravi says:

    Very good posting. We humans often get distracted from our goal by thinking more about,”what other’s think about us”.

    The first few steps is difficult to take. Even a crawling kid plans to take his/her first step. Once they start walking they do not look back to crawl. Same thing as a grown up we have to take the first difficult step of planning.

  39. John says:

    What an absolute mis-use of the that verse. In fact it should be turned around. Paul was talking about the bickering between individuals in the church and the starting of foolish arguments. Which by my calculation, would be exactly what this brother has done! Grow up!

  40. Jean says:

    @ Kitty,

    I have a cartoon clipped onto my fridge that has a cute drawing of a snake with its head up, looking intently into the pages of a book – next to the snake is a skein of yarn and knitting needles on the ground – and the title of the book is, “Anyone Can Knit”.

    I’m a musician.

  41. Minimum Wage Sucks says:

    Just go jump off a bridg minimum wage!

  42. Mariette says:

    Kitty,

    I still think it’s good that the “no talents” followed their dreams anyway, because who knows where that experience led, what they may have learned, or what opportunities came from it. Perhaps not a singing career, but possibly something else that they never would have imagined and never would have been exposed to if they hadn’t followed their passion in the first place. And often just the experience of pursuing something you love is rewarding in and of itself.

  43. s says:

    Good call with the TV.

    I sold mine on craigslist a year ago, and it was the best decision. No more spacing out to TV just to relax.

    I still watch two shows, but I watch them online on the network’s website on my own time – and it is only those two shows.

  44. Lorraine says:

    Law school, MBA, running a company, done. Step, step, step. Set a goal, break it down, move forward. Three years is too much of a commitment? Can you make through the next 12 weeks? One quarter down. Move on.

    Really big goals? My big goal has been how to construct a new life from scratch since my husband died and both of my children are leaving the nest. As depressing as this sounds, it is a matter of setting and achieving goals step-by-step. I have simply defined each sequential problem and identified a next step towards solving it. The next step is not necessarily the “right” step, but the step that will allow you to make the next decision. A step that will allow me to say “yes, this feels right” or “no”. I find I do not know myself until I start walking down the path. The brain cannot force the unwilling soul to follow.

    I do not “Know” what future I want, but I know many possibilities–define that down to four real possibilities–pursue all simultaneously–search for fit, what feels right, take the next step. I have been doing this for a year. Huge issues, like budget, taxes, projections for 20 years, take an hour a week–whatever the soul can bear, and, walla, they are eventually accomplished.

    Meanwhile, the big one, what will I do with the rest of my life to make it meaningful comes together a day–a month at a time–it simmers until the best flavors are tangible and then I move in that direction.

    Every goal–every goal–is attainable by taking one small step in that direction at a time and not focusing on the end point. If you do not know what the next step should be, sometimes, it is like my old boss said, “it is better to move, than to be right”. The movement itself provides information.

    It is the first step that counts. That and faith that the rest of the steps will follow if you listen carefully, adjust the course, and keep a list of simple, discrete, easy steps forward, the future unfolds.

    Hope this is helpful.

  45. mothergeek says:

    What a way to live your dream!

    Me I am a dream factory. I have always had lots of dreams ranging from the silly and plain doable to the cloudy and nebulous (new word learned). Of 100 ideas and dreams maybe 1 is actually sound and good. I want to make a living sprouting ideas.

    Every day when I drive to work I dream up things and then I add them to a list. But somehow lists can become chores or make me sigh because it looks undoable. Now I will add details to my dream list. This will help me realise my dreams.

    Thank you very much for sharing your excellent ideas.

    I will buy your book when it comes out.

  46. Jon says:

    Trent,

    Great article, great strategy.

    I had unknowingly struggled with adult ADHD my entire adult life. Like me, approximately 2% – 5% of adults struggle with goal planning and achievement. While medication might help, a lot of us never learned, or understood, life skills such as these which many people take for granted.

    At the age of 38, I am aggressively trying to make up for ‘lost time’.

    To that end, I’ve started a site, http://www.mutualdistraction.net, which aims to bring together tips, strategies, tools and life skills I find to a very, very appreciative audience.

    Glad I found this piece to add to the collection!

    Jon

  47. Bryce says:

    That has to be one of the worst displays of a bible verse used out of context.

  48. Spencer says:

    Good article. The quote you use to introduce the article is interesting. I think some people need to realize that even if you’re a Christian that the bible was written a long time ago. Whether or not god exists, there are things written in the bible that represent the context of the age. Taking this verse literally makes the mistake of assuming our world has not changed. Indeed the social mobility possible, whether through education, or hard work via entrepreneurship can advance one through the classes. This wasn’t possible back when this verse is meant to apply.

  49. Brian says:

    The point about cutting down on television is critical. Because I was curious about how much time one could gain by cutting down on television, I ran through the numbers and was surprised at the results. I wrote it up in a little article on my blog, DevYou.

  50. Kenny says:

    Once I was playing the “FRIENDS TV SHOW BOARD GAME” with another couple. After we all got rapidly through the game board because we were getting every single question right, I commented, “how sad is it that we’re so excited about remembering times when we were watching TV?”

    It’s still a great show, and there needs to be a little room where you can zone out for a while. FOr some it’s the boob tube, others read books, others play video games, others read PF blogs.

    Everything in moderation…

    And Trent’s point of not giving up on the dream is a good one, and it’s sad that so many of us just give up and settle for “keeping the head above water.”

    I think Trent has enough material to make a pretty good book. His site seems to be one of the more content-driven places, rather than some others that seem to link to other sites.

    And Trent seems like a nice guy from Iowa. If he builds (or publishes) it, they will come (or buy).

  51. scoreperfect says:

    Well of course 1 Corinthians 13:11 is absolutely correct. But to what are you assigning “Childish”? For example turning off the TV as mentioned above is a GREAT way of “putting away the things of a child”. As children, we did watch TV – why? We were kids! ;). But now, we’re not. So we become selective in what we watch – it’s no longer the “default” on how we spend our time…we are now indeed, “putting away” the things of a child.

    Dreams are only childish when they remain fantasies of our childhood. But a child may dream of one day being a fireman and indeed become that as an adult…the child’s fantasy was carried to adulthood as the dream matured. However that child may mature and end up being a great teacher – the common thread is ‘helping others’.

    Incidently, there are many biblical references to those who “chased” their dreams. Solomon, David, Moses, Abraham, and even the very author (Paul) quoted above.

    There of course is no satisfactory or convincing answer to a person who believes that ‘going for your dreams’ is a waste of time. They will just recite the same litany of excuses. I’ve heard them all: It’s a waste of time; I don’t have the talent; I’m too young; I’m too old; I don’t know where to start; I don’t know what I want; I’m nothing exceptional; I never get the breaks; what if I fail? you need money; it’s who you know; I’m not in the right place; you have to have ‘connections'; I’ve got a family to support; I’ve tried it and it doesn’t work; this bible passage says…(insert anything you want); it’s not God’s will; (or my favorite variation: I’m waiting for God to speak to me about it); I would if I wasn’t married; I would if I was married; I could if I had support; I would if I could; my husband/wife won’t support me; my family thinks I’m crazy to even think about it; I’ve got children; I’ll think about it after I have children; that only happens to other people, not me;

    It really is an endless list. The excuse above is classic: it’s the old “waste of time adults have “things to do” excuse and trying to validate it with biblical non sequitur (non sequitur = it does not follow)

    Perhaps this issue of “Adults have things to do” IS this person’s dream! Well great – just keep doing what you’re doing then – and let you’re tombstone read, “He thought dreaming foolish” but we all may not have that same dream…let each pursue their own.

    Going for your dreams and maintaining your daily duties so they don’t snuff out your dream is the true character of a person. We are each an instrument/vessel in which God seeks to be expressed – so by not dreaming, you’re not playing ball with God – you’re basically shutting down. But if you want to be a great pianist and find an hour to practice a day, all the while maintaing your daily “adult” duties, then God can say, “Look, see how I can express myself through your fingers!”

    Anytime you have a dream, put it on paper. Read it every night and every morning. Instead of wondering whether you can achieve it or not, think this instead: “This is how God is going to be expressed through me”; now THAT’s Biblical!

    I have spoken (lol ;)

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