Updated on 06.05.14

Reader Mailbag: Parent-Teacher Conferences

Trent Hamm

Reader Mailbag: Parent-Teacher Conferences

What’s inside? Here are the questions answered in today’s reader mailbag, boiled down to five word summaries. Click on the number to jump straight down to the question.
1. Medicare, Social Security, and 401(k)s
2. Water cooler and cable TV
3. Helping people in need
4. Handling an underwater house
5. Bad babysitter
6. Retirement savings troubles
7. Cloth diapering for big kids
8. How to cut own hair?
9. Work from home tactics
10. Choosing where to put Roth

When I was a kid, I dreaded parent-teacher conferences. I always was sure that my teachers were going to say something terrible about me to my parents, whether or not there was any reason for it or not.

Yesterday, as I was talking to my son about his upcoming conferences, he expressed the same fear. I told him he would be fine – after all, he’s doing everything above grade level and is almost disarmingly polite.

Still, I couldn’t help but see a reflection of myself in him with that little worry.

Q1: Medicare, Social Security, and 401(k)s
My primary employer offers a 401(k), but offers no matching and the company though which they have the 401k charges relatively high fees. In the past I have opted for a Roth IRA as my primary retirement investment option. I would like to diversify a bit and have been looking at the individual 401k option. I have my Roth IRA through vanguard and have been looking at the individual 401k plan as well. My self-employment income is as an independent contractor and is only around $10,000-$15,000 a year. Apart from 401k employer matching and the maintenance fee of the firm is there any tax deferred saving in an individual 401k vs. a traditional 401k all things being equal? Why this question is important: with self- employed income one pays double social security and double medicare. This can quickly add up to a large tax bill, so I was curious if the medicare and social security are deferred, or if an individual still pays the full amount in the year the income is earned.

– Robert

I think you’re asking several things at once here, so I’ll try to address all of your concerns. First of all, Social Security and Medicare (FICA taxes, in other words) are taken out of gross wages, not net wages.

In other words, the amount you have to pay is calculated before you deduct your 401(k) or other pre-tax contributions. In other words, if you’re looking to reduce your Social Security and Medicare contributions through additional contributions to your retirement, you’re out of luck.

You also seem to be asking whether or not you’ll have to pay FICA taxes in retirement. FICA is only tacked onto earned income through work. Investment income is not charged a FICA tax, so you won’t be dinged with that in retirement (unless, of course, you’re still working, in which case you’ll pay FICA on your work wages but not pay it on your retirement income).

As for an individual 401(k) versues an employer-sponsored 401(k), you mentioned the big differences – the provider, the investment options, the fees. You’ll also have to make sure that you’re investing self-employment income only into the individual 401(k).

I’d really advise you to spend some time getting a strong background on 401(k) plans. Wikipedia is a good starting point (as it is for many things), but you should follow through with more references as well. I suggest starting with the 401(k) entry, particularly the section on small businesses and sole proprietorships.

Q2: Water cooler and cable TV
While I’m completely on board with you with regards to the relative value of Netflix streaming and cable and how streaming is more cost-effective, I do have one problem. At work, there are several shows that people discuss around the office. The events on last night’s episode of The Walking Dead or the twists and turns of Breaking Bad are often conversation topics in my workplace (let alone the sports events), and ditching cable means that you’d miss out on that.

– Susannah

Honestly, I’d use the same approach in this situation that I use when talking sports. I’d just read a plot summary of relevant shows before leaving for work in the morning.

The only sports I follow with real depth are baseball and college basketball, but people often talk about other sports as well, so I often read ESPN.com or other sports sites to get a summary of today’s big sports stories, mostly as conversation fodder.

I don’t see any reason why you couldn’t more or less do the same thing with other programs. There are many sites out there that have plot summaries of episodes. Just read them, then you can at least follow the conversation and offer up a few tidbits.

Q3: Helping people in need
Over the past week, I’ve been approached by two people selling trinkets in a ‘whatever you can give’ manner. The first was a deaf man in an airport and the second was a women in a parking lot saying that her children were hungry. I gave each person $5, but I couldn’t help but wonder if I was helping them or if there was something more substantial that I could do for them. Any advice on situations like these?

– Amy

I usually trust my gut instinct when it comes to situations like this. Sometimes, I do nothing at all, particularly if I feel like there is no need involved. Once, I had a guy in a shirt and tie ask me for ten bucks so he could buy a beer or two outside of a baseball game. At that time, I was probably more needy than he was.

If I feel like someone does need a hand, I usually try to give them something they can use rather than just handing them money. Money can easily be converted into something wasteful. It’s much harder to do that with a sandwich. Sarah and I have given away lots of food over the years in this fashion, along with other items (I once gave a younger teenage girl my coat).

Yes, sometimes you’re going to get scammed. I’m fine with that, as long as I know I’m able to sometimes help someone with a genuine need.

Q4: Handling an underwater house
We currently live in a house that we bought at the wrong time. We have 25 years left on a 30 year, 6.5% fixed rate. We owe 196 and the house is probably worth 140. We currently have about 2500-3000 per month left over. We have some nominal student loan debt at low federal rates (2%). We have 6 months living expenses saved in an e-fund. We would eventually like to move (and may need to for employment purposes) and potentially rent out our other house (probably at a few hundred per month of a loss if we aren’t there). Would it make more sense for us to start saving the 3K per month for a potential move or devote that money towards paying down the mortgage. We are not going to walk away, despite being underwater. I am aware that this decision may not represent the best fiscal decision, but if we needed to move and didn’t mine the few hundred loss per month, what would you recommend?

– Daniel

The “right” decision here really comes down to the likelihood of the move and the timeframe of that move.

When you say you would “eventually like to move,” does that mean you are absolutely moving in one year, or are you possibly moving in three years? Those two options give different answers to your question.

The longer your timeframe for the move and the lower the likelihood you will move at all, the better it is for you to put money into your mortgage. It will essentially return at 6.5% for the lifetime of your mortgage because of the reduced interest. If you can possibly get the mortgage down to refinancing territory, that’s even better.

If your move is highly likely and in a short time frame, then you should be saving for moving expenses, as that’s a more immediate need.

Q5: Bad babysitter
If someone does a poor job of babysitting your child, should you pay them? I had a neighborhood girl watch my baby the other day for three hours. When I came home, my baby was crying hysterically with a wet diaper and the babysitter was in the living room listening to headphones and playing on a laptop. Should I have paid her?

– Jessie

My philosophy is to pay them, but never hire them again and do not give them any positive word of mouth referrals.

For starters, they might have a completely different set of expectations about the situation than you do. While most parents would probably be upset walking in on that situation, it might be a normal situation in that person’s household.

For another, not paying the person for their service – even if it’s shoddily done – will end up reflecting much worse on you than them. If you don’t pay a person, they could pursue legal action, but more likely they will simply drag your name through the mud throughout your community.

Pay the person, then move on with life and don’t deal with that person again.

Q6: Retirement savings troubles
I know what I want to do….fully fund IRA’s for my wife and I plus contribute at least enough in our 401k’s to maximize employer matching, plus put at least $200/month towards college saving for our 4 month old daughter. The issue is determining whether that is realistic or the best course of action given our financial state and the transitions we are currently going through. If it turns out that I can’t fully fund the things listed above, how would you go about prioritizing them?

Circumstances: Right now I live and work in Boulder, Colorado and my wife and daughter live in Kansas City. She accepted a position that will bring her out here in May and there will be no gap in her income. I share this because right now we are trying to sell our KC house ($1255 monthly mortgage including taxes). I have a month-to-month place here in Colorado for $800. Right now I am neither optimistic or pessimistic about our prospects of selling our house. We have had a number of lookers but no offers. I have looked into management companies and feel we could cover virtually all of our payments with projected rent minus management fees. I understand there will be costs due to vacant months and repairs in this scenario….I’d rather sell.

I am not eligible for 401k participation until I’ve completed one year of employment. I do not currently have a Roth IRA or any other form of active retirement savings in place. I have something like $15,000 from my previous job that I will eventually roll over. We enrolled my wife in a Roth IRA ($8k) but we only contribute $150 a month into it. She participates in her work 401k and has about $23k currently.

I currently have about $14k in an Ally savings account serving as an emergency fund. Additionally I have about $8k in various Bank of America checking and savings accounts. This number is usually lower (more in Ally) but I wanted funds available quickly for popup house repairs, etc while it is on the market. My issue comes when trying to get a good budget in place to determine how much we can divert to college and retirement savings. Right now I’m not sure what my wife’s monthly net income will be. I don’t know how long I’ll have to pay both a mortgage and rent. We have very little debt apart from our mortgage…basiclly $6k in low-interest student loans that sets us back about $100/month.

We have not started college savings yet and I’d like to open either a 529 or Coverdell as soon as possible. My only hesitation is the fact that we’re not fully funding IRA’s and I’ve heard those can be used for education expenses with the same benefits. Should I just put more in the IRA we have setup? My wife and I prefer something that is specifically for college and not just lumped into other savings.

I know that with investing, taking action is better than waiting, even if you end up changing or correcting courses later on. This line of thinking makes me want to fund as much as I can as soon as I can. The conservative inside of me wants to assume I’ll be stuck with rent and a mortgage for a longer time and wants to have as much cash on hand as possible to cover contingencies. Any thoughts?
– Leon

If you use an IRA for educational purposes before age 59 1/2, you will owe income taxes on at least part of the money withdrawn (from a Traditional, you’ll owe money on all of it; from a Roth, you’ll just owe money on the gains). However, you won’t be subject to the additional 10% penalty for withdrawing money early.

On the other hand, with a 529 college savings plan, you won’t owe income taxes on any of the withdrawals if you use it for educational purposes. The thing to always remember is that if a complete disaster strikes, you can always tap the money saved in any of these accounts. You’ll just have to pay a tax penalty on them.

If I were in your shoes, once I had a solid emergency fund in place, I’d focus on targeted saving, like retirement or educational saving. Given a choice between the two, I’d focus on retirement savings first and save any excess for education. You can always find other ways to finance an education (student loans, working for a year, etc.), but you can’t find other ways to make retirement work.

Q7: Cloth diapering for bigger kids
Our grandson is 7 months old and has outgrown the cloth diapers from Bum Genius. He’s a big baby, obviously, and wears size 5 Huggies. What did you use when your kids outgrew the cloth diapers?

– Lily

We loved the BumGenius diapers (they’re adjustable for a lot of smaller baby sizes), but there was a period where they were still in diapers but had outgrown the BumGenius sizes. I am very thankful that this happened much later than 7 months… our 22 month old wouldn’t even wear stage 5 Huggies yet and can still wear the BumGenius ones just fine.

So, what did we do during that interim period? Sarah tried making a few because she enjoys sewing projects. We also ordered a few from a now-defunct person selling them on Etsy, and Sarah bought a few cheaply-made ones off of eBay (I just pulled one out and the tag has what I believe to be Korean writing on it, so I have no idea what the brand is).

All of them worked fairly well, though they tended to be a bit more of a hassle. We kept using the BumGenius liners as extra padding and absorption in the bigger diapers.

Q8: How to cut own hair?
I can’t believe you really cut your own hair? How exactly did you do that? Did you stare into a mirror while doing it? If I could do it well at all, I’d do it, because I’m tired of dropping $20 every month or two on a haircut and have hair care products constantly sold to me.

– Jeff

I use two mirrors when I cut my hair. I stand in front of a wall mirror and I hold a handheld mirror in the places where I need it while trimming.

I would not cut my own hair if I were not simply using clippers. With clippers, you’re mostly just worried about missing a few spots, which can easily be checked by running your hands through your hair and examining things with a mirror. With a more stylish cut, you can’t quite do that.

I’ve done it enough times over the years that I basically trust myself. I just check things over when I’m finished, so I often don’t even need the mirror while I’m doing the actual cutting.

Q9: Work from home tactics
I’m in IT and have recently (well 5 months now) taken a job that has me working full time from home. I do get out to the customers pretty often but the house is my office. I have 2 smalls kids and a wife who mostly understands that work means work. Do you have an article on making the best of it?

– Roger

I don’t have an article on the topic per se, but I do have some pointers.

First of all, designate a spot as your work spot. Make sure that this spot is just for work and nothing else. If you don’t have that, it’s going to be incredibly easy for non-work distractions to sneak into the picture.

Second, when you’re away from that work spot, don’t work. Treat it as your office. Don’t duck in there every five minutes when the family isn’t paying absolute attention to you at the moment. When your day is over, let it be over and stay away from your work spot. Your family needs you.

Finally, minimize the scheduling of personal stuff during your typical work periods. Yes, it’s tempting to really amp up the flexibility of a work-from-home arrangement, but you’ll end up finding that you regret it because you have to slide work around to other times. Don’t do it.

Q10: Choosing where to put Roth
My husband and I are a bit behind in saving for retirement (we’ve both been grad students in seminary for the past 6 years). We’d like to get started by opening a Roth IRA. My plan has been to start with the Vanguard Star fund and contribute to it until it reaches the minimum for opening a Vanguard Roth. But, I’m wondering if it might be a better option to open an account with another company that doesn’t require a minimum amount to start. We are in the process of building up our emergency fund, and won’t have enough to start with Vanguard for awhile.

What would you recommend? I think Vanguard is the best firm, but I’m afraid of waiting any longer to open an account.
– Linda

If you find a investment firm you’re comfortable with that has investments you like, there’s no reason not to open an account with them. I usually recommend Vanguard simply because that’s what I use, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t other firms with good offerings and fees, and the $3,000 minimum can be a real stumbling block while you’re getting started.

One approach that you might consider is looking for a good brokerage that offers IRAs with no termination fees. That way, if you so choose, you can build up your IRA with them, then when you reach the $3,000 mark, you can choose to transfer your IRA to Vanguard with no extra cost. Or, if you like that brokerage, you can leave your money there.

Another approach is to simply save the money in a savings account until you have that $3,000 minimum. Honestly, with those small amounts, even the biggest market swings are going to have a pretty tiny impact on your dollar amounts.

The key thing is to start saving now, whether it’s in a savings account or at a brokerage.

Got any questions? Email them to me or leave them in the comments and I’ll attempt to answer them in a future mailbag (which, by way of full disclosure, may also get re-posted on other websites that pick up my blog). However, I do receive hundreds of questions per week, so I may not necessarily be able to answer yours.

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  1. Vicky says:

    You know, for people who are interested in current TV – there’s always Hulu. It costs about the same as Netflix and has many of the shows airing right now, often with episodes available the next day.

    There’s also buying a season pass from either Amazon or iTunes – this method isn’t AS cost effective, but it keeping up with everyone else matters THAT MUCH to you….

    I always just say I don’t watch that show and move on. Sometimes someone who is a huge fan will loan me a DVD or something so I can see what they’re talking about, but I don’t think TV is the only thing on the planet you could talk about.

  2. Nate says:

    Q7: There are tons of other cloth diapers out there that are similar to the BumGenius style (either all-in-one or with inserts), but go in larger sizes. My son just turned three and is still in cloth diapers and he’s nearly 40 pounds. Are you sure there aren’t larger sizes of BumGenius? My wife is the expert on this stuff, so I don’t know off hand. My other son is almost 8 months and is a big boy as well and still fits in the few BumGenius diapers we have.

    My suggestion is to do a little research online and find other cloth diaper brands. There are tons of them that work as well or better than BumGenius and go in larger sizes. Sorry I can’t think of any offhand.

  3. Baley says:

    Q7: There’s also the very likely possibility that your son will slim down as he grows older and may be able to fit into the BumGenius diapers again, so don’t get rid of them yet. That is a very big baby who can’t fit in those diapers!

  4. Johanna says:

    Q3: Poor people are not stupid. When you give them a sandwich instead of money because you don’t trust them to spend the money on things you’d approve of, they pick up on that.

    I don’t always give to people who ask me for help, but when I do, I give money. (Anything from a few coins up to $5, depending on what’s in my wallet.) I’m aware that sometimes that money will be spent on something I might consider wasteful. I’m fine with that. It’s not “getting scammed” – it’s an autonomous human being making choices that are different from the choices I might have made.

  5. David says:

    One wonders whether it was a non-stupid poor person who invented the BumGenius diaper. If not, it ought to have been.

  6. Chris says:

    #3 I once had someone ask me for money to buy a donut at the grocery store near where we were. I offered her some groceries, as I had just been to a store but she refused, stating she wanted a donut. Not too hungry, huh?

  7. Kevin says:


    If a homeless person is hungry, there are shelters that give out free food and offer a warm bed. Every penny you give them is being used for drugs and alcohol. Without exception.

    If you give money to homeless people, you’re a naive enabler.

  8. Johanna says:

    @Kevin: Umm…who says every panhandler is homeless? Maybe they need money to pay their rent or utilities?

  9. Laundry Lady says:

    @ Question 7

    If you want to stay with pocket style diapers like bumGenius I recommend medium or Large size FuzziBunz Perfect Size diapers or Thirsties Duo Diapers Size 2. There are lots of Etsy vendors who make cloth diapers, many of them will do custom orders as well. I suggest an internet search on cloth diapers for larger babies. You always have the option of Premium or Toddler size prefolds with Size Large covesr. (Personally I recommend Thirsties)

  10. Lilly says:

    @Question 7 – what people said above – chances are he will “grow” back into the BG diapers when he starts cruising/walking. For now, there are LOTS of large and XL sized diapers, AND covers that go up to 35-40lbs and even higher. Prefolds and covers might be the way to go if you don’t want to spend a lot on a secondary diapering system.

  11. Tracy says:


    “Every penny you give them is being used for drugs and alcohol. Without exception.”


    (AKA, so ridiculously untrue.)

  12. Johanna says:

    Q5: First of all, yes, absolutely you should have paid her. She did what you hired her to do: preventing your baby from coming to serious harm while you were away.

    Second, before you bad-mouth her to your neighbors, make sure she understands what she did wrong. If she doesn’t have experience in caring for babies, she might not have realized that the baby would need attention after she’d put it to bed, so she shouldn’t put on her headphones and zone out.

  13. Adam P says:

    @7 – I have a homeless friend (since late December, I paid for his hotel room for nearly a month over the holidays as I felt terrible).

    He does go to shelters to get food, but sleeping there is out of the question for him due to the crime, diseases, bed bugs, and other atrocities occurring in them.

    The money my friends and family have given him from time to time is used to buy books, food, and yep, an occasional beer while he watched the Saints games before they lost in the playoffs.

    Be careful with generalizations.

  14. Jayme says:

    I thought you could withdrawal contributions to an IRA without tax consequences? If needed, couldn’t that be the way to go? Only plan on pulling out contributions for educational expenses?

  15. Cheryl says:

    @Q5 The best way to find a babysitter? If it’s a neighborhood kid, have her come help out while you are home. Teach her how you take care of the baby, and let her know what you expect. Watch her with your child BEFORE you leave her alone the first time. Suggest some babysitting classes at the local Red Cross. I’d suggest having a conversation with this person, letting her know WHY you were upset, and if she is willing to learn, point her in the right direction for classes or teach her yourself. Good sitters are made, not born, and they are a real treasure… best source is always a relative, but neighborhood teens can be very helpful if properly trained.

  16. josh says:

    poor = unintelligent. Stupidity is relative, intelligence is not.

  17. valleycat1 says:

    Q8 – cutting your own hair. Definitely if you just use clippers you can do it yourself, as they have length guides you clip on & in addition to the directions that come with the clippers there are tons of videos online about how to handle them to get the look you want.

    I’m a female with very short hair, though not clippered short all over. After years of having to fine-tune a salon cut after I got home, I started just doing the whole thing myself, with scissors, thinning/texturizing scissors, & clippers. Using a second mirror to do the back isn’t really necessary with clippers, but you do need a second mirror for scissor cuts. It’s easy to do once you get the hang of it. And you learn your hair’s idiosyncracies & can compensate if necessary.

    I have yet for anyone to realize I don’t go to a salon if I haven’t told them.

  18. Laundry Lady says:

    @#5 David
    Actually bumGenius was invented by a husband and wife who were getting food stamps while unemployed and couldn’t afford to buy diapers for their baby. Check out Jennifer Labit’s website or Cotton Babies for more info.

  19. Kathleen says:

    Why not have Sarah cut your hair? I don’t get the self-cut when there’s a spouse around!

  20. Evita says:

    #19 Kathleen, using clippers is so easy you don’t need someone else to do it! my hubby had done it for years and I just do the “finishing” at the nape. This is great for the short “military” style that is still so fashionable.

  21. Andrew says:

    Kathleen, maybe Sarah doesn’t want to cut his hair, or is too busy, or is a terrible barber. Who knows?

    I just hope that people who cut their own hair enlist the services of an impartial observer who will tell them the truth about how it looks!

  22. Adam P says:

    My hair dresser is more therapist than hair cutter. She’s a bargain at twice the price.

  23. Kyle says:

    If you plan out your charitable giving, then you will have no guilt when people ask you for a handout.

    If you are concerned about homeless people, then plan your donation amount and the best place to give your money. You can even plan on giving out money to beggars if you want to. Then when someone asks you for a donation, you won’t have any guilt and can make a free choice.

  24. jim says:

    Q1 Robert : Employer 401k and self employment 401k are the same as far as tax deferal status. They are both 401k’s and the IRS views them the same.

    Q4 Daniel : I’m not a fan of throwing extra money into an underwater house short term. Reason being if worse comes to worse and you lose your job, go bankrupt, get disabled, pass away, etc within the next 1-2 years then any money you put into that home is effectively lost.
    I would instead pile up your cash for the next 1-2 years. You could also check into the HARP program to see if you can refinance to market 4% rates. HARP allows refinance for underwater homes. That could save you a few thousand of interest in the next couple years.

    Q5 : You owe her wages. So you should pay her. I would however make it clear what she did wrong.

    Q6 : Your key question is how to prioritize retirement savings and college savings. Your priorities should be :
    #1) Fund 401k up to employer match
    #2) Then fund IRA / Roth IRA so your total combined retirement savings is 15% of your income.
    #3) Lastly you can fund college savings account such as a 529.

    Retirement savings is higher priority than college savings. You need to retire and have money available and there are no student loans for retirement. Not everyone goes to college and there are other ways to fund college. So retirement is first and college is second.
    Funding 401k up to employer match is the #1 priority since that is FREE money that you don’t want to leave on the table. You want to hit retirement savings goal of about 15% of your income so you can fund an adequate retirement. 15% is just a rule of thumb of course, but it works well for most people as a goal. We don’t know your entire picture (your income vs expenses) so its hard to give more specific advice.

  25. Elysian says:

    #23 Kyle –
    I agree. I personally think that my money is used much more efficiently and can help more people if I give it to the soup kitchen rather than giving it to people I see on the street. It will also help other people, people who aren’t standing in front of me at the time. So I plan my charitable giving for the year in that way.

    It is also a helpful thing to say when people call me during dinner to ask for money. If they send me some information in the mail I’ll consider them next year when I plan my donations.

  26. wisnjc says:

    Q10: You can start a Roth IRA account with Vanguard in the STAR Fund for $1000. I just did it this month. You don’t have to start in the STAR, then convert it to a Roth IRA. Later on you can rebalance your portfolio in the Roth IRA, basically transferring those STAR investment shares to another fund. For that, I’m not sure if Vanguard will hold you to the 3K minimum or not.
    Go ahead and get started if you can get the $1000 together. Perhaps your possible tax refund can help towards that goal.

  27. jim says:


    “If a homeless person is hungry, there are shelters that give out free food and offer a warm bed. Every penny you give them is being used for drugs and alcohol. Without exception.”

    Really Kevin? Really?

    Every single homeless person in the USA is a drug and alcohol user? “without exception” You can’t honestly believe such a thing can you?

    So 100% of homeless children use drugs and alcohol? Or do you also imagine that no children are homeless?

    Not that your ridiculous claim even warrants refutation, but heres just one scientific study on the topic that clearly refutes it :

    American Psychologist, Vol 46(11), Nov 1991, 1139-1148. doi:

    “Credible estimates of the prevalence of alcohol and drug abuse suggest that alcohol abuse affects 30 to 40% and drug abuse 10 to 15% of homeless persons.”

    Keep in mind that around 9% of the US adult population uses illegal drugs and 50% of the adult population are regular alcohol users.

    Clearly there are drug and alcohol problems among the homeless but it is nowhere near 100%.

  28. Kai says:

    My husband cuts his own hair too, for the same reason given above – it’s just that easy! Cutting hair to a single length with a clipper is extremely easy, even to do on yourself. Sometimes he’ll ask me to even up the bottom edge if he cares, but the basic cutting really doesn’t need another person.

  29. jim says:

    Kevin said : “If a homeless person is hungry, there are shelters that give out free food and offer a warm bed.”

    For that point it really varies. Some areas have pretty generous and ample charity and government aid for the homeless. Some cities have very little free assistance available compared to the number of homeless people. So it certainly is not as simple as just going to the local soup kitchen. The local soup kitchen may be underfunded, already closed for the day due to over capacity or may not even exist.

  30. Nancy says:

    If you want to help homeless children, contact your local school and ask if there are needs for young people. Sometimes this is more direct method that helps your community in a more tangible way. Perhaps you can sponsor a teacher with additional funding to help them help children directly.

    I have a sponsor who donates money for art supplies. I send photos of completed work. I also have sponsors for special trips. The weight that is lifted off students shoulders is awe-inspiring. I always encourage them to “pay it forward someday”. Because I’ve been teaching a very long time, I have gotten to witness the later “paying forward”.

  31. Kacie says:

    #10 I believe Vanguard’s minimums for opening a target date account are $1,000, so that’s much easier to reach than a $3k initial deposit.

    Pick your brokerage company and save up in a regular ol savings account until you have enough to work with them. When you’re talking about small sums of money it probably won’t matter much

  32. Johanna says:

    I don’t think there’s any single best way to help people in need. There’s a lot of value in giving to charities that help people (including ones who aren’t right in front of you) on a large scale, but there’s also a lot of value in giving to the people who are right in front of you (rather than hardening your heart and walking on by). Doing one of those things doesn’t mean you can’t or shouldn’t do the other as well.

  33. PawPrint says:

    Q4: If you haven’t looked into the HARP program, please do so. Your loan must be a Fannie Mae or Freddie Mac loan, and you can find that out by looking on a website (google HARP). With rates at 3.5%, you’d save quite a bit of money if you plan to stay in your house long enough to recoup the closing costs.

  34. lee says:

    Q3 we were once selling at our market stall on a bitterley cold day and a young girl asked if we needed any help.
    She was cold and hungry but didn’t ask for a hand out, just if she could work. We ended up buying her a warm coat and trousers of another market stall(he provided them at cost) and bought her dinner in return for her help. We thought that that would be the last we would see of her and that the clothes would be sold as quick as a wink.
    But no she turned up the next week dressed in the clothes we had bought her and we employed her properly for about 3 monthes.
    We never found out very much about her , but guessed she had a hard life.
    Then she didnt turn up any more and no one had seen her, we finally heard she had moved away.I am sure she made a better life for herself and we never regetted buying her food every day that she worked for us and extra clothes -on top of her wages.

  35. lee says:

    just thought I had better explain. We live in t’north of England -and dinner is our mid day meal!

  36. getagrip says:

    @#4 No one said that poor people are stupid. But when someone cruising a downtown parking lot comes up to me and asks for money for food, and I have food to offer instead of money, they can make the choice to take it or not. I don’t believe honestly offering the food is the insult to their intelligence that you imply. They are, after all, begging and the choice of if and how to help is yours, not theirs. Their choice is whether to accept the offered help or not.

    Q5 I’m with the folks on paying the babysitter, you don’t know for certain that the wet diaper and crying didn’t start two minutes before you arrived or not. That said, I agree with others that depending on your relationship (now or future) with the babysitter (neighborhood kid you like, cousin’s daughter, etc.) instead of just cutting them off without reason you could, after taking care of your child, talk to them about how they missed the wet diaper and crying (even if it did just start before you arrived) and had there been a more serious issue they could have missed that as well by zoning out completely.

  37. Michael says:

    Worrying about the best way to give $5 or a few groceries is silly. $5 is not enough to destroy someone with a drug addiction — it’s mostly done so that the giver feels good about himself or herself. However, spending time and money on charity intelligently is also a good idea.

  38. Slccom says:

    Netflix and hulu don’t show captions. For some of us, cable is a necessity as both my husband and I are ill and have little energy.

  39. Amanda says:

    Slccom, the shows I watch on Hulu have captions. You just mouse over the lower right-hand corner until you see “CC.” Click it, and turn the captions on.

    However, I am sure this doesn’t work for all shows.

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