Try this little experiment. For the rest of the day (or tomorrow, if you’re reading this late in the day), whenever you interact with someone, take just a second and ask yourself what you could do during that interaction to make that other person walk away happier. Then, try to do just that.
Offer a compliment. Genuinely listen to their concerns and ask a follow-up question or two, showing that you’re listening even if you don’t have an answer. Offer the help they’re asking for if you can do so easily.
Try it out and see what happens. Note how you feel at the end of the day. Also, note how other people react to you. Make up your own mind whether or not this is a better approach toward other people than your ordinary methods.
Urge Surfing This is a brilliant technique for overcoming addictive behaviors and impulses. Rather than giving in, learn how to ride the impulse until it’s no longer distracting you. (@ the motion machine)