You’ll Never Get Ahead With Resentment, Jealousy, and Hate Inside You

When I was younger, I used to have a great deal of resentment towards rich people. I often felt like they were greedy. I believed that they had somehow “cheated” to get where they were at. Yet, at the same time, I desperately wanted what they had, too.

Today, I no longer feel that way. Instead, I recognize that the vast majority (I’m not saying all, but most) of wealthy people I’ve met have done things I really admire.

They busted their butt. Most of them worked incredibly hard to get where they are, even if you don’t see it on the surface. Famous actors take years of acting lessons and often spend many, many years taking on awful roles and working for peanuts before they get their break. Businessmen often spend many years in school and give every ounce of themselves to build a business up in the face of stiff competition. Sports athletes – particularly the top ones – practice in a way that can just blow your mind.

Sure, they were lucky, but they usually did things to make that luck for themselves and they took advantage of it when it came along.

They bargain hunt, just like I do – they look for bargains in their employees and their assets just like I look for bargains in my food and toiletries. They seek to maximize their bang for their buck.

All of these things are things I admire and strive for in my own life – and they’re often major elements of how the people who have become very successful live their lives.

The truth of the matter is that my earlier resentment of people who have achieved success came down to two things: my own jealousy and my own impatience.

The flaws came from within me, not from them. I allowed myself to waste my emotions, my energy, and my passion along the useless roads of resentment and jealousy and impatience.

That wasted energy could have gone toward building a great career, building great relationships with people, or towards building my own luck. But, for a long time, I didn’t choose that.

When I finally started waking up to this, sometime in 2005 and 2006, things began to change in my life. I stopped wasting my energy on a lot of frustration and resentment and started using it on creating my own luck. That, along with a healthy dollop of responsibility for my finances, has put me in a much better place in every aspect of my life.

If you find yourself feeling resentful and angry towards people who have the things you wish you had, step back for a second. Usually, the problem is within you. Jealousy. Frustration. Impatience. Put those feelings away and start asking yourself what you can do to get where they’re at.

Negative feelings are destructive. They’ll burn you up and leave you in a mess unless you figure out how to channel them correctly to push you forward. Then you’ll take off like a rocket.